http://youtube.com/watch?v=e3OruftO42w
seriously, people like this should not be parents.Is this bad parenting. continuing to laugh at your 2 yo while she screams her head off?
Someone needed to be disciplined not taped.Is this bad parenting. continuing to laugh at your 2 yo while she screams her head off?
This was very disturbing. The mother was sadistic and the child was an upset little brat having a tantrum. The mother should have put down the camera, calmed down the child, and ended it there.
bloody hell. I don't think she wants her picture taken!
Edit: i suppose it'll be good footage for her 18th birthday party. lol.
oh my goodness.
did you notice that person disable any comments to that video..that was just wrong..there was nothing wrong with that..when that child said she didn't want to take a picture the mother should have stopped..that was wrong!
Seriously, this parents need to teach some discipline. She was acting like a brat....not wanting her picture to be taken, is not enough reason to act the way she did and the parents are just encouraging it by laughing and getting video of it.
Yes it is because she thinks she is doing something funny and will keep doing it
I think what the parents did was plain wrong. Laughing at the tantrum is just bizarre. I think it was being very mean to the child.
Were you really looking for an answer? If you were than here it is, but before I give it, let me say that I am a mother of 3, a teacher and I am currently finishing up my child psychology program in order to open up my a private practice shortly, along with being a child advocate for 15 years.
If this is ongoing behavior when your child throws a temper tantrum than yes, it is not good parenting. If this was an isolated incident, than you made an unwise choice in how you responded to your child鈥檚 tantrum. With that said, do not think for one moment that we and I speak for all mothers, have not made unwise choices in our parenting.
As far as publicizing it, that is a personal view and not the question you ask, so I will leave my thoughts on that issue to myself. Don鈥檛 beat yourself up to badly or allow others do it for you, just remember that you are human, as are all of us, and sometimes it is better to stand back and review a situation first before we act.
I would reason a guess that the video was staged
that is kinda disturbing...
Okay first off the child is 2 and a half and acted like that because she REALLY didnt want her picture taken. She does not need disaplining. if someone was trying to take a pic of you u would do anything so they wouldnt even throw a paddy if you thought it would work. That little girl was really upset and you could tell she really didnt want her pic taken - so why not stop? I dont think the woman should not be a parent i just think she shouldve taken into consideration how her daughter felt.
Shes feels if she throws a paddy she will get her needs met, as most toddlers and babies do. She didnt want her pic taken!
i think what is worse it that she is posting her daughter on the internet for perverts to see her!!!
yeah there are plenty of folks who should have got sterilised at birth!
That was disgusting. Clearly this woman was more concerned with getting video coverage than she was about he daughter. You could tell that the child wanted her MOTHER, not the dam n camera in her face AGAIN. There weren't any words of reassurance, or anything like, '; smile pretty so we can send a picture of you to grandma';. She just stood there LAUGHING. WTF???? Does she even take care of her child or does she sit with a camcorder stuck to her eyeball all day long? I'm floored. Wow.
I don't see the big deal, I laughed. I don't agree with putting your kids on the Internet though, unfortunately, men can be sick and you have to keep yourself and your kids safe from perverted, sick men.
It's taunting the child.
I wish sex was more difficult so people this dumb wouldn't be able to figure it out!
She spelled their ';there.';
God help us all.
dam that girl is crazy !!! and the mom 2 i think the girl is sceared of the camera
Yes, it's bad. An adult should never antagonize a child, especially when that child is already having an emotional meltdown!! Parenting is about doing what's best for your child even when it's difficult. Treating a child this way only encourages the tantrum and leads to future emotional problems.
As a parent, it is your job to provide a SAFE place for a child to express their emotions and to teach them to deal with their negative emotions appropriately. If a child doesn't have this, they will grow up into emotionally immature adults that have outbursts etc. when they don't get their way!
You know, it's not even funny. It's annoying. I don't even know why parents think that their kids are so damn cute that they have to share their antics with the rest of the world. I stopped watching after about ten seconds into the video.
These parents are retards: they should realize that laughing at their children's despair may make for problems later down the road. She'll probably end up being a serial killer or laughing at them when their 89 years old and lying around with a feeding tube. Karma wears heels--and she's a Beeeyaatch!
It's a shame when parents have nothing better to do. I have seen stuff like that on America's Funniest Videos and often wonder why they would even play them on that show, being that it's not even funny. It's actually stupid. Nobody wants to watch a kid having a major conniption caught on film. LOL.
I wouldn't call it bad parenting... just a lack of a few brain cells. As someone else said, it's taunting the child, and that's just not nice.
you have to be a parent to understand where this parent is coming from,,,,yes the child is tantruming...and yes the mother is laughing,,,what should she be doing yelling crying,smacking -i dont think so....peolple cant win these days ,,,she wasnt hurting her child,,and kids will be kids..its not normal if a child doesnt tantrum now and then,,i am sure this is not how she would deal with it on a regular basis..come on wouldnt you rather laugh than cry,,and the child is not in any harm,,sometimes the more you try and control a tantrum the worse it gets...
yeah, wow, they are just like me!! i did that too, but that was before i gave them all away
Give me a break.. this is all in good fun. The child is not in danger she isn't going to ';die'; from screaming and throwing a fit.
People should not judge others..
oh and btw I have 30 + videos of my baby on YouTube not to mention she has her own website with over 2,000 pictures posted.. I am not scared that someone will see her online!!
Edit.. oh yea so wrong for a mother to do something a child doesn't want.. so next time my 10 month old doesn't want to have her diaper changed I shouldn't change it? Or how about doesn't want to eat her veggies.. should I give her icecream instead? WOW people take things way to seriously lets focus less on the things that DONT hurt our children and more on the stuff in our country that is HURTING THEM!
Saturday, January 23, 2010
Who are the most popular Gluten-free bloggers about life, parenting and/or dieting?
if you go on xanga.com they have a section for parents, health and autism (which often includes blogs about gluten free). you have to look around but it has some wonderful blogs.
What do you think Lynn Spears did wrong in parenting Britney and Jamie Lynn Spears?
jamie lynn isnt the first teenager to get pregnant and there are people out there who are just like or even worse then britney.... im only 18 years old and im definetley not a mom but i believe that any parent tries to be the best that they can be... it is up to the child after to make the choice between right and wrong...What do you think Lynn Spears did wrong in parenting Britney and Jamie Lynn Spears?
she gave birth, thats what.What do you think Lynn Spears did wrong in parenting Britney and Jamie Lynn Spears?
Parenting often has nothing to do with it. Great parents can have bad kids and good kids can have lousy parents.
Nothing.
They are famous and get their pictures taken all the time.
Our role models and heroes no longer need to wear white.
They merely reflect our demented society.
Everything.
Lynne Spears probably did nothing wrong
Thats just the way the turned out
An' they are not the most messed up people in the world
I know a few people who were pregs young
An' i dunno any one messed up like britney but there are some.
It just looks worse for them cos they get folllowed by camera's and others don't.
I think we should leave em alone. x
who gives a sh.it ?? why are u so much into celebrities, far out!
They got famous at a very young age. and they missed out on a proper childhood
she gave birth, thats what.What do you think Lynn Spears did wrong in parenting Britney and Jamie Lynn Spears?
Parenting often has nothing to do with it. Great parents can have bad kids and good kids can have lousy parents.
Nothing.
They are famous and get their pictures taken all the time.
Our role models and heroes no longer need to wear white.
They merely reflect our demented society.
Everything.
Lynne Spears probably did nothing wrong
Thats just the way the turned out
An' they are not the most messed up people in the world
I know a few people who were pregs young
An' i dunno any one messed up like britney but there are some.
It just looks worse for them cos they get folllowed by camera's and others don't.
I think we should leave em alone. x
who gives a sh.it ?? why are u so much into celebrities, far out!
They got famous at a very young age. and they missed out on a proper childhood
Parents, if you parenting styles differ drastically from another's?
how comfortable would you be w/having them as a friend? Could you accept the difference or would it create a niche that could not be overcome?
The biggies:
spank or not
discipline in general
breast or bottle
religion
scheduling (bedtime)
etc.Parents, if you parenting styles differ drastically from another's?
I would be fine with it. Just as long as they don't try and force their beliefs on mine of course.Parents, if you parenting styles differ drastically from another's?
I think slight differences would be ok (example i spank you dont, i breastfeed you think its gross, your kid has no bed time and mine is on a strict schedule) as long as they weren't pushing things on me. But huge differences (maily discipline as in you let your child do whatever he/she wants 24/7) i feel we would have problems b/c if their child misbehaves and starts breaking things and acting up at my house and they are not disciplined they will not be allowed back (and i probably wouldn't want their child around mine for fear of them rubbing off on my kid) . I think it would be easier to have someone who's styles are some what similar than completely opposing. I don't think i would be a lasting friendship for long.
At least in my case
I have actually had friendship's disintegrate due to drastic differences in parenting styles. My life is all about my children, making sure they are well taken care of, provided for, taught morals and discipline, and above all else, all the love I can give them.
I have had friends who were swell friends but as parents, well, not so good. One friend, instead of putting oil in her tank to keep the house warm and provide a warm bath for the children opted on frivolously spending the money her husband gave her (he had a great deal to do w/this as well). I couldn't respect her choice and in the end it really put a hurting on our friendship.
Another would purposely dress her children in mix, match, grungy clothing, tease her daughters' hair to look unkempt, muck up their faces and be-bop from church to charity to milk whoever she could of money w/the image she was worse off then she was from the way her children looked. That ended.
The point is, although these people made pretty good to great friends, because the way they were raising their children and/or the way they treated their children didn't sit well with me, I just couldn't feel comfortable continuing the friendships.
I'm kind of the ';cool'; dad (i was told this) just cause i'm laid back and kinda let my kids and their friends do whatever, and i know so many more paranoid moms and dads. Its harder for them to be my friend when i say things like ';theres no blood flowing, keep on going'; but some have told me that i've taught them to be more laid back. As for spanking they can spankt heir own if they want and i got no problem with it. I planned on doing it with mine but i could never bring myself too. All those other things is totally up to them since its their kid and not mine. Religion is usually the big case for argument so i try to avoid that one.
So long as his or her children weren't a bad influence on mine, I wouldn't have a problem with it. Also, the parent has to know that if a child is in my house, they must respect the rules in my house. I once had a friend have a fit on me because I told her child (calmly, politely) that we do no climb on the furniture. She had a absolute fit about me correcting her child, about how unreasonable I was (children don't know any better, you know) and all sorts of things. I made it perfectly clear to her that in MY house, people regardless of age, will respect our rules and our property, and if she didn't like that, she could leave. After that, she left, didn't call me for a month, then called crying and apologizing because (surprise, surprise) her daughter broke her arm falling off the couch.
Personally it doesn't matter what any of my friends teach their children as long as there wasn't anything drastic such as a parent doing drugs in the house or abusing a child, etc.
Discipline, breastfeeding, religion, bedtimes, etc. are a parent's choices and I feel that to each their own. As long as they respect my choices as well then there wouldn't be any problems. I have friends who have very different beliefs and we accept each others.
i can imagine disciplinary differences (not merely spanking or not, but belittling, abusing, or humiliating a child) that would make it difficult for me to interact with someone. i can imagine some fringe religious beliefs that if they were of the ';in your face'; variety and were not consistent with my own morals might fracture a friendship. of the other things you mentioned, they're details and certainly not something to end a friendship over.
I wouldn't care, but I don't want to hear a lecture about my parenting style. If I always got told that I wasn't doing things right then I would not have them as a friend. A friend should accept you and not lecture you.
Me and my close friends parenting styles do differ majorly,we are still friends though.I think a true friendship could last with differences in who you are as a person even not just parenting styles.
We usually end up as friends with people who we have things in common with; however, all friends have differences, and if we care for our friends, we accept them at face value and don't judge them.
i think as long as they teach their children to respect and be good people then there ways are not my issue. i would of course not put up with abuse
The biggies:
spank or not
discipline in general
breast or bottle
religion
scheduling (bedtime)
etc.Parents, if you parenting styles differ drastically from another's?
I would be fine with it. Just as long as they don't try and force their beliefs on mine of course.Parents, if you parenting styles differ drastically from another's?
I think slight differences would be ok (example i spank you dont, i breastfeed you think its gross, your kid has no bed time and mine is on a strict schedule) as long as they weren't pushing things on me. But huge differences (maily discipline as in you let your child do whatever he/she wants 24/7) i feel we would have problems b/c if their child misbehaves and starts breaking things and acting up at my house and they are not disciplined they will not be allowed back (and i probably wouldn't want their child around mine for fear of them rubbing off on my kid) . I think it would be easier to have someone who's styles are some what similar than completely opposing. I don't think i would be a lasting friendship for long.
At least in my case
I have actually had friendship's disintegrate due to drastic differences in parenting styles. My life is all about my children, making sure they are well taken care of, provided for, taught morals and discipline, and above all else, all the love I can give them.
I have had friends who were swell friends but as parents, well, not so good. One friend, instead of putting oil in her tank to keep the house warm and provide a warm bath for the children opted on frivolously spending the money her husband gave her (he had a great deal to do w/this as well). I couldn't respect her choice and in the end it really put a hurting on our friendship.
Another would purposely dress her children in mix, match, grungy clothing, tease her daughters' hair to look unkempt, muck up their faces and be-bop from church to charity to milk whoever she could of money w/the image she was worse off then she was from the way her children looked. That ended.
The point is, although these people made pretty good to great friends, because the way they were raising their children and/or the way they treated their children didn't sit well with me, I just couldn't feel comfortable continuing the friendships.
I'm kind of the ';cool'; dad (i was told this) just cause i'm laid back and kinda let my kids and their friends do whatever, and i know so many more paranoid moms and dads. Its harder for them to be my friend when i say things like ';theres no blood flowing, keep on going'; but some have told me that i've taught them to be more laid back. As for spanking they can spankt heir own if they want and i got no problem with it. I planned on doing it with mine but i could never bring myself too. All those other things is totally up to them since its their kid and not mine. Religion is usually the big case for argument so i try to avoid that one.
So long as his or her children weren't a bad influence on mine, I wouldn't have a problem with it. Also, the parent has to know that if a child is in my house, they must respect the rules in my house. I once had a friend have a fit on me because I told her child (calmly, politely) that we do no climb on the furniture. She had a absolute fit about me correcting her child, about how unreasonable I was (children don't know any better, you know) and all sorts of things. I made it perfectly clear to her that in MY house, people regardless of age, will respect our rules and our property, and if she didn't like that, she could leave. After that, she left, didn't call me for a month, then called crying and apologizing because (surprise, surprise) her daughter broke her arm falling off the couch.
Personally it doesn't matter what any of my friends teach their children as long as there wasn't anything drastic such as a parent doing drugs in the house or abusing a child, etc.
Discipline, breastfeeding, religion, bedtimes, etc. are a parent's choices and I feel that to each their own. As long as they respect my choices as well then there wouldn't be any problems. I have friends who have very different beliefs and we accept each others.
i can imagine disciplinary differences (not merely spanking or not, but belittling, abusing, or humiliating a child) that would make it difficult for me to interact with someone. i can imagine some fringe religious beliefs that if they were of the ';in your face'; variety and were not consistent with my own morals might fracture a friendship. of the other things you mentioned, they're details and certainly not something to end a friendship over.
I wouldn't care, but I don't want to hear a lecture about my parenting style. If I always got told that I wasn't doing things right then I would not have them as a friend. A friend should accept you and not lecture you.
Me and my close friends parenting styles do differ majorly,we are still friends though.I think a true friendship could last with differences in who you are as a person even not just parenting styles.
We usually end up as friends with people who we have things in common with; however, all friends have differences, and if we care for our friends, we accept them at face value and don't judge them.
i think as long as they teach their children to respect and be good people then there ways are not my issue. i would of course not put up with abuse
Complete strangers saying rude things to you about your parenting?
it has not happened to me yet my daughter is 11 months but i was just wondering the kinds of things people have said to you about your parenting or anything close..even if they tried to say it in a ';nice'; way..or have you ever caught yourself saying something . . .so any stories welcome
thanksComplete strangers saying rude things to you about your parenting?
I've got plenty of stories about this! Some of the things people have said to me make me wonder if their parents ever taught them manners!
Once, just a few months ago we were on vacation to Disney World. The hubby and I had been trying our hardest to keep our twins eating well (you know, not eating out all the time things like that) and on our last day at Disney we decided to treat the girls who had been well behaved the entire time. Anyways we were in the candy shop and purchased them each an oversized lollipop. The cashier rang them up and I handed them to the girls to hang on to while I paid. As I was getting the money out the cashier said,
';Aren't they a little young for so much sugar?'; with this horrible disapproving look on her face. Had my girls not been standing right there I would have given her a piece of my mind!
Another time I had all three girls out (my 3 year old twins and 14 year old stepdaughter) at the mall. It was about a year ago, so the twins were only 2. After a couple of hours they were both exhausted so Lia (step daughter) and I each grabbed one of them and as we were walking through the mall, trying to get to the exit with the girls snoozing on our shoulders I heard a woman comment loudly to her friend,
';How sad those poor little girls have to nap on the go just so their mommy can shop'; She said it like I didn't care that they were tired and only cared about shopping! When she thought I wasn't looking actually Lia flipped them the bird. Normally I would have scolded her, but gosh I felt like doing the sameComplete strangers saying rude things to you about your parenting?
I was taking my son to the park in his stroller when he was about 6 months, when a man said to me ';he looks cold.'; I reflexively felt his hands and said ';no, he's not cold,'; because of course, the hands, nose, ears and toes get cold first. So the man stoops over, touches the baby's hands too, and says ';he's NOT cold!'; in a tone of complete surprise. And his wife scolds him ';she doesn't want a complete stranger touching her baby. Particularly on the hands--he'll put them in his mouth!'; And I just smiled and moved on. . .
the worse for me was when my son was only 2 months old
we took him to my aunts home for a sunday BBQ. We fed him ( bottle....could not breast feed.... which is a whole other rant about how some mothers look down on you for that!!) It was only around another hour latter my son seemed to be hungry again so we decided to give him another bottle. Well people were jumping on me saying my son was starving and I should be putting cereal in his bottle. This one woman( who i never met before) was really going on about it. I tried telling her how doctors do not suggest that any more that it works against the baby. There was no shutting her up tho... I started getting really upset. This woman was accusing me of starving my child over and over. i was really upset at my family that were letting her attack me like that too! I finally broke and told her to shut up and mind her own business. She got pissy and left :)
thankyou for giving me somewhere to let off steam!!
my bub has started to sleep on his stomach probably ever since he could roll himself over, i guess he finds it more comfortable.. anyway this was stressing me and i asked the health nurse what to do as the whole thing bout safety with sids is to put baby to sleep on their backs.. she said that it is fine if he is moving himself to that position as he is strong enough to roll over.. ok i thought stress less let him sleep how he is comfortable.. anyway i was down the local shops and my bub had fallen asleep in the pram and was sort of laying on his side/stomach in the pram.. a lady stopped me and said 'YOUR BABY IS ON HIS TUMMY!!!' i said 'i know' implying isnt he just so gorgeous, she said 'NOT SUPPOSED TO DO THAT YOU KNOW!!' and expected me to roll him over and disrupt his sleep.. i was shocked a stranger could be so outspoken and judgmental i didnt even get the chance to say to her i have spoken to his nurse and she says its ok etc etc, i just felt like crying.
there have been others but i think because they see im a young mum they think its ok to be opinionated about my child. As i am a young mum i read everything i can to help and ask endless questions to family and the health nurses i dont pretend i know everything but i find the answers to what i dont know and find the best ones to suit my bub and i....
sorry realise i started a bit of a rant, it just makes me mad when people do this i dont give any advice unless i am asked to.
I have had people tell me that I should let me daughter ride in a cart because she chews on it (I clean it off before I put her in it and I have tried the covers, she pushes it to the side and then just chews on the cart).
I have had people tell me that I don't dress my daughter ';properly'; (she's a girl, most of her clothes are boy clothes, I can't help it my relatives are mostly male). I have had people tell me that she is going to have a gender complex because of the way I dress her, which is stupid.
People give me crap about giving her juice (';don't you know it will make her obese?';), veggie puffies (';don't you know she could choke?';) and formula (';don't you know that breastfeeding is better?';).
I just let it roll, you can't let things like that bother you.
Edit:
Oh, I almost forgot about the woman yesterday! She actually yelled at me for not having a hat on my little one. Yes, I know it was raining and chilly, but you just try keeping a hat on a six month old that doesn't want to wear it!
Yes! I have 5 kids, so you can imagine the looks we get because God forbid we don't have the same size family as them. I never really had someone bold enough to say something until about 3 months ago.
That was the day all my kids were a little sick, but I still had to go shopping for food. My husband was working, so all 5 of them came along. I wouldn't buy my 3 year old daughter, but she ended up having a breakdown. My 13 year old daughter stayed outside the bathroom with the rest of the children (who were behaving great) while I was in the bathroom calming my daughter down. A women was in their, and looked horrified that I had my daughter sit in time-out for 3 minutes on the chair in the bathroom. It's not like I stripped her bare and wacked her around in the bathroom. I didn't even spank her (but boy I could've lol). So then I calm her down. I was maybe in the bathroom for 5 minutes and I come out. This women is standing with my kids. At first I thought she was just helping my daughter out, but no she was waiting there to ';make sure I come back'; and to ';tell me the dangers of this';. I'm glad she was concerned, because when I think someone is in danger I like to speak up, but it was no where NEAR dangerous.
Uhhh people annoy me!
right after my son was born and the day after i went home with him, i had to stop at a grocery store to get him some formula. i didn't have him in his baby seat and his feet weren't in socks and no one said anything but i felt the glares of women as i walked through the grocery store with my newborn. he was born in september but that fall was pretty warm so i didn't bundle him up constantly and i kept getting grief from that and people kept claiming that my son was going to get colic (which of course he never did).
i don't really give a rat's rump about strangers, but my son's paternal grandmother is always telling me how i'm messing up. she tells me:
1) i should get him hard bottomed shoes
2) i should stop giving him formula and give him more table food (such as french fries and potato chips which are so healthy lol)
3) i should cut his hair
4) he's always either hot or cold in my home
i had someone that was holding my son once make a comment about the lack of hard bottomed shoes and i just laughed if off as me being one of those ';new-fangled moms';. people are going to talk. strangers are more dealable. its the relatives that have comments that are more annoying.
This is my personal favorite:
When my child was about three or four, we were having ice cream and sitting outside the ice cream parlor. It was the first warm day of Spring and my child was literally dancing for joy.
A stranger walked over to me and said, ';It's bad enough for you to give a hyperactive child ice cream, but it didn't have to be CHOCOLATE!';
The child is 12 now and still dancing for joy....
All the best.
';you really should discipline them better';, ';If that was my son I would have beat his a** by now';, ';that's what happens when you don't have a father in the picture';......believe me being a single mom of two boys I have heard many comments usually from older married woman who have nothing better to do than to sit around and judge everyone else.
I was in Family Dollar with my boys and they were having a horrible day. My exhusband had just been back in town and visited with them for a whole hour after not seeing them for a year and they were very upset by the visit. It was the next day and we took them to the store and they just hadn't slept good or anything after the visit but they were doing ok just a little grumpy. Well we got to the store and we were there for about 10 minutes and they always go to the store and the ladies that work there know us very well so the boys decided to get hyper and they were playing in the store. I told the to stop it and my youngest son threw a fit. He was 2 years old at the time. He threw himself to the ground screaming and this little old lady, probably about 70 years old started talking to another woman and said ';I don't know what is wrong with these young parents today, they can't even control their own kids. If that was my son he wouldn't have done that because I would have pulled his a** out of here already and beat his butt until he couldn't sit';.
You should not be left in charge of children!
It hurts not because it might be true but because it is a real fear, the inability to live up to the role, of parent.
Yes, like ';you need to go out and hustle'; nobody can raise a child on their own. Thats BS
i've never had anyone say anything to me but if they did I'd give it right back to themshiseido
thanksComplete strangers saying rude things to you about your parenting?
I've got plenty of stories about this! Some of the things people have said to me make me wonder if their parents ever taught them manners!
Once, just a few months ago we were on vacation to Disney World. The hubby and I had been trying our hardest to keep our twins eating well (you know, not eating out all the time things like that) and on our last day at Disney we decided to treat the girls who had been well behaved the entire time. Anyways we were in the candy shop and purchased them each an oversized lollipop. The cashier rang them up and I handed them to the girls to hang on to while I paid. As I was getting the money out the cashier said,
';Aren't they a little young for so much sugar?'; with this horrible disapproving look on her face. Had my girls not been standing right there I would have given her a piece of my mind!
Another time I had all three girls out (my 3 year old twins and 14 year old stepdaughter) at the mall. It was about a year ago, so the twins were only 2. After a couple of hours they were both exhausted so Lia (step daughter) and I each grabbed one of them and as we were walking through the mall, trying to get to the exit with the girls snoozing on our shoulders I heard a woman comment loudly to her friend,
';How sad those poor little girls have to nap on the go just so their mommy can shop'; She said it like I didn't care that they were tired and only cared about shopping! When she thought I wasn't looking actually Lia flipped them the bird. Normally I would have scolded her, but gosh I felt like doing the sameComplete strangers saying rude things to you about your parenting?
I was taking my son to the park in his stroller when he was about 6 months, when a man said to me ';he looks cold.'; I reflexively felt his hands and said ';no, he's not cold,'; because of course, the hands, nose, ears and toes get cold first. So the man stoops over, touches the baby's hands too, and says ';he's NOT cold!'; in a tone of complete surprise. And his wife scolds him ';she doesn't want a complete stranger touching her baby. Particularly on the hands--he'll put them in his mouth!'; And I just smiled and moved on. . .
the worse for me was when my son was only 2 months old
we took him to my aunts home for a sunday BBQ. We fed him ( bottle....could not breast feed.... which is a whole other rant about how some mothers look down on you for that!!) It was only around another hour latter my son seemed to be hungry again so we decided to give him another bottle. Well people were jumping on me saying my son was starving and I should be putting cereal in his bottle. This one woman( who i never met before) was really going on about it. I tried telling her how doctors do not suggest that any more that it works against the baby. There was no shutting her up tho... I started getting really upset. This woman was accusing me of starving my child over and over. i was really upset at my family that were letting her attack me like that too! I finally broke and told her to shut up and mind her own business. She got pissy and left :)
thankyou for giving me somewhere to let off steam!!
my bub has started to sleep on his stomach probably ever since he could roll himself over, i guess he finds it more comfortable.. anyway this was stressing me and i asked the health nurse what to do as the whole thing bout safety with sids is to put baby to sleep on their backs.. she said that it is fine if he is moving himself to that position as he is strong enough to roll over.. ok i thought stress less let him sleep how he is comfortable.. anyway i was down the local shops and my bub had fallen asleep in the pram and was sort of laying on his side/stomach in the pram.. a lady stopped me and said 'YOUR BABY IS ON HIS TUMMY!!!' i said 'i know' implying isnt he just so gorgeous, she said 'NOT SUPPOSED TO DO THAT YOU KNOW!!' and expected me to roll him over and disrupt his sleep.. i was shocked a stranger could be so outspoken and judgmental i didnt even get the chance to say to her i have spoken to his nurse and she says its ok etc etc, i just felt like crying.
there have been others but i think because they see im a young mum they think its ok to be opinionated about my child. As i am a young mum i read everything i can to help and ask endless questions to family and the health nurses i dont pretend i know everything but i find the answers to what i dont know and find the best ones to suit my bub and i....
sorry realise i started a bit of a rant, it just makes me mad when people do this i dont give any advice unless i am asked to.
I have had people tell me that I should let me daughter ride in a cart because she chews on it (I clean it off before I put her in it and I have tried the covers, she pushes it to the side and then just chews on the cart).
I have had people tell me that I don't dress my daughter ';properly'; (she's a girl, most of her clothes are boy clothes, I can't help it my relatives are mostly male). I have had people tell me that she is going to have a gender complex because of the way I dress her, which is stupid.
People give me crap about giving her juice (';don't you know it will make her obese?';), veggie puffies (';don't you know she could choke?';) and formula (';don't you know that breastfeeding is better?';).
I just let it roll, you can't let things like that bother you.
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Oh, I almost forgot about the woman yesterday! She actually yelled at me for not having a hat on my little one. Yes, I know it was raining and chilly, but you just try keeping a hat on a six month old that doesn't want to wear it!
Yes! I have 5 kids, so you can imagine the looks we get because God forbid we don't have the same size family as them. I never really had someone bold enough to say something until about 3 months ago.
That was the day all my kids were a little sick, but I still had to go shopping for food. My husband was working, so all 5 of them came along. I wouldn't buy my 3 year old daughter, but she ended up having a breakdown. My 13 year old daughter stayed outside the bathroom with the rest of the children (who were behaving great) while I was in the bathroom calming my daughter down. A women was in their, and looked horrified that I had my daughter sit in time-out for 3 minutes on the chair in the bathroom. It's not like I stripped her bare and wacked her around in the bathroom. I didn't even spank her (but boy I could've lol). So then I calm her down. I was maybe in the bathroom for 5 minutes and I come out. This women is standing with my kids. At first I thought she was just helping my daughter out, but no she was waiting there to ';make sure I come back'; and to ';tell me the dangers of this';. I'm glad she was concerned, because when I think someone is in danger I like to speak up, but it was no where NEAR dangerous.
Uhhh people annoy me!
right after my son was born and the day after i went home with him, i had to stop at a grocery store to get him some formula. i didn't have him in his baby seat and his feet weren't in socks and no one said anything but i felt the glares of women as i walked through the grocery store with my newborn. he was born in september but that fall was pretty warm so i didn't bundle him up constantly and i kept getting grief from that and people kept claiming that my son was going to get colic (which of course he never did).
i don't really give a rat's rump about strangers, but my son's paternal grandmother is always telling me how i'm messing up. she tells me:
1) i should get him hard bottomed shoes
2) i should stop giving him formula and give him more table food (such as french fries and potato chips which are so healthy lol)
3) i should cut his hair
4) he's always either hot or cold in my home
i had someone that was holding my son once make a comment about the lack of hard bottomed shoes and i just laughed if off as me being one of those ';new-fangled moms';. people are going to talk. strangers are more dealable. its the relatives that have comments that are more annoying.
This is my personal favorite:
When my child was about three or four, we were having ice cream and sitting outside the ice cream parlor. It was the first warm day of Spring and my child was literally dancing for joy.
A stranger walked over to me and said, ';It's bad enough for you to give a hyperactive child ice cream, but it didn't have to be CHOCOLATE!';
The child is 12 now and still dancing for joy....
All the best.
';you really should discipline them better';, ';If that was my son I would have beat his a** by now';, ';that's what happens when you don't have a father in the picture';......believe me being a single mom of two boys I have heard many comments usually from older married woman who have nothing better to do than to sit around and judge everyone else.
I was in Family Dollar with my boys and they were having a horrible day. My exhusband had just been back in town and visited with them for a whole hour after not seeing them for a year and they were very upset by the visit. It was the next day and we took them to the store and they just hadn't slept good or anything after the visit but they were doing ok just a little grumpy. Well we got to the store and we were there for about 10 minutes and they always go to the store and the ladies that work there know us very well so the boys decided to get hyper and they were playing in the store. I told the to stop it and my youngest son threw a fit. He was 2 years old at the time. He threw himself to the ground screaming and this little old lady, probably about 70 years old started talking to another woman and said ';I don't know what is wrong with these young parents today, they can't even control their own kids. If that was my son he wouldn't have done that because I would have pulled his a** out of here already and beat his butt until he couldn't sit';.
You should not be left in charge of children!
It hurts not because it might be true but because it is a real fear, the inability to live up to the role, of parent.
Yes, like ';you need to go out and hustle'; nobody can raise a child on their own. Thats BS
i've never had anyone say anything to me but if they did I'd give it right back to them
What right does my ex.husband and his new wife have to be critical of me or my parenting skills?
I am mom of 7 kids and on my 3 rd hopefully final marriage happily.I met my ex.husband when i was studying abroad in London he was a lawyer it was love at first sight.
I was a single mom of a son who was 2 yrs old at the time but being raised by my parents back in the states temporarliy but i choose to omit that fact till after our wedding.Thats when i found out he disliked kids /did not want any but it was too late because i was pregnant with my 1st daughter.We divorced when she was just a baby.He wanted nothing to do with her prefering to just send a check.Afterward i fell for a french business man, had my 2 nd daughter and found out he as married.I remarried and had my 3 rd daughter but i was widowed after 8 months.I returned to the U.S.A and later wed my eldest sons dad.I have been happily wed for the last 10 yrs,had 4 more kids and have a very stable family life.But my ex.husband and his new wife who only recently steped into the picture feel they can be critical over my past?What right does my ex.husband and his new wife have to be critical of me or my parenting skills?
He has a critical past also, to feel he has the right to criticize you is very wrong.
Don't listen to him or even let him get to you. He was a jerk while you were with him and still being a jerk to you now.
If he and his new wife criticize you in front of your child, your child will get tired of it fast. You are her mother and the one who has always been there.
His new wife don't know you only of you. Have a judge sign an order telling them to quit making derogatory and false statements in front of your children (if he is) this way you can make a choice to haul them both into court for tearing down your relationship with your child/children.
Who cares about your past.......live for today.What right does my ex.husband and his new wife have to be critical of me or my parenting skills?
See...this is what I don't get about most folks. Why are you so concerned about what everyone else thinks about you anyway? What really matters is what YOU and YOU alone think. And what your children think about you. If everyone else wants to participate in helping you to parent your children then maybe they can offer subjective and objective criticism that will help you to be a better parent. If not...tell them to f*** off.
If he's never been there, it's not his business. Plus, he was married and didn't tell you. Creep. Ask his new wife if she's sure he doesn't have another family somewhere else.
Well if you look at it from an outsiders point I can kind of see what they might be talking about. Don't take that wrong.. Why not communicate with them that this is how you raise your kids and that he has chosen not to be apart of the raising so he should be less judgmental and proud that you raised his daughter and that he should of been there if he wanted a say.,
Just ask them the next time how they think the fact that her father did not want anything to do with her might have influenced her and that given the fact that she is 15 now and doing pretty darn good, you think you have done a bang up job without any help from either of them.
why do u care what they think? look u have Ur daughter right? yes.
he has not been in this child's life, by what u say. he only sends a check. is he feeling guilty all of the sudden?
what i think is that he should be the one being questioned, hes the one that didn't want children, remember?.
its a good thing that u finally found a man that respects and cherishes you, don't let that jerk and jerket try to criticize Ur past, Ur being a great mom, and that's all that matters
My strong opinion to your ex Londoner, who didn't like kids in the first place take his London bloody fog comment and stick so far up his London brigde that he can't come down!! Just remind him what he told you when you told him about you having his first child. That he doesn't want nothing to do with her. Just because he remarried and got a son (that he accept) and he want to bad mouth you about your past. And his wife want to put in her two cents as well. Tell he to take care of their son and leave the daughter business with you. As long she is happy with you and well taken care of, let him said what he want and let it go out your other ear.
Unless they have a court order forcing visitation do not send her to London anymore.
I'm sorry -- I'm a bit confused. Would this be the English Barrister that you're having problems with?
If so, tell him he relinquished all rights to parenting when he decided he'd rather just write that check every month. If he feels he has a ';case'; for custody, tell him you'll see him in court. Otherwise, he can keep his trap shut.
After 7 kids and at least 4 relationships (that I can count from your statement) and NO record that you even elude to of child rearing issues, I would say that he has no room to squawk. Tell him to go knock up his current wife and leave you alone.
well, it sounds like he has never been there in the first place, so what right does he have to criticize you. people do what they need to do to get by. that's what you did. who cares what they think?
Question their upbringing.
Its the wife who is causing all the camotion. This man only wanted to send a check, no he thinks he is daddy of the year.
I would tell her ';Listen up honey, he only wanted to be a check daddy, he told me he disliked kids, If I were you I would take note. But until then stay out my face and out my business, What ever kind of mother I am I was a better mother than he will ever be as a father'; See what she says to that, and remind him of the deal he made regarding his child.
JEEZ 7 KIDS, U'VE BEEN KEEPING BUSY
With 7 kids sounds like you should be to busy to get really concerned,about what your ex has to say.By the way does he have any kids with this marriage.If not and he wasnt around to raise your daughter i fail to see why he even should attempt to be critical of you.Sounds like you and your husband has things under controll,I think that I would tell mr.Ex just keep putting the checks in the mail and let you do the raising.
why are you worrying about what your EX and his wife thinks?
Sounds like he's the one to blame.
your past speaks for itself.
I'm curious as to why the parental rights of this ex weren't stripped when you got married this time since the ex wanted nothing to do with your child. My advice is to seek to have his rights stripped, and your husband can adopt all the kids that aren't his.
Now as far as your daughter's behavior, that's typical of kids whose parents aren't married. In this case, the father didn't even want her, probably still wouldn't if it didn't somehow benefit him, which is why I encourage having his rights stripped.
As an add on..since there's no court ordered visitation, there's probably no child support, either. Have his rights stripped and like I said, maybe your husband can adopt the kids that aren't his. It would really be the wisest thing, anyway. What if something should happen to you? He'd only be able to keep what's legally his.
They can only be critical if you give them the power to be critical. Dont listen to them.
no one is perfect. so my answer is no.. i dont think they have any right to say jack crap about your parenting skills... heck, this comign from the guy who'd rather send a check then love to his kids? remind him of THAT next time he goes to say something.
but good lord lady.. 7 kids!? i feel lightheaded!!
I was a single mom of a son who was 2 yrs old at the time but being raised by my parents back in the states temporarliy but i choose to omit that fact till after our wedding.Thats when i found out he disliked kids /did not want any but it was too late because i was pregnant with my 1st daughter.We divorced when she was just a baby.He wanted nothing to do with her prefering to just send a check.Afterward i fell for a french business man, had my 2 nd daughter and found out he as married.I remarried and had my 3 rd daughter but i was widowed after 8 months.I returned to the U.S.A and later wed my eldest sons dad.I have been happily wed for the last 10 yrs,had 4 more kids and have a very stable family life.But my ex.husband and his new wife who only recently steped into the picture feel they can be critical over my past?What right does my ex.husband and his new wife have to be critical of me or my parenting skills?
He has a critical past also, to feel he has the right to criticize you is very wrong.
Don't listen to him or even let him get to you. He was a jerk while you were with him and still being a jerk to you now.
If he and his new wife criticize you in front of your child, your child will get tired of it fast. You are her mother and the one who has always been there.
His new wife don't know you only of you. Have a judge sign an order telling them to quit making derogatory and false statements in front of your children (if he is) this way you can make a choice to haul them both into court for tearing down your relationship with your child/children.
Who cares about your past.......live for today.What right does my ex.husband and his new wife have to be critical of me or my parenting skills?
See...this is what I don't get about most folks. Why are you so concerned about what everyone else thinks about you anyway? What really matters is what YOU and YOU alone think. And what your children think about you. If everyone else wants to participate in helping you to parent your children then maybe they can offer subjective and objective criticism that will help you to be a better parent. If not...tell them to f*** off.
If he's never been there, it's not his business. Plus, he was married and didn't tell you. Creep. Ask his new wife if she's sure he doesn't have another family somewhere else.
Well if you look at it from an outsiders point I can kind of see what they might be talking about. Don't take that wrong.. Why not communicate with them that this is how you raise your kids and that he has chosen not to be apart of the raising so he should be less judgmental and proud that you raised his daughter and that he should of been there if he wanted a say.,
Just ask them the next time how they think the fact that her father did not want anything to do with her might have influenced her and that given the fact that she is 15 now and doing pretty darn good, you think you have done a bang up job without any help from either of them.
why do u care what they think? look u have Ur daughter right? yes.
he has not been in this child's life, by what u say. he only sends a check. is he feeling guilty all of the sudden?
what i think is that he should be the one being questioned, hes the one that didn't want children, remember?.
its a good thing that u finally found a man that respects and cherishes you, don't let that jerk and jerket try to criticize Ur past, Ur being a great mom, and that's all that matters
My strong opinion to your ex Londoner, who didn't like kids in the first place take his London bloody fog comment and stick so far up his London brigde that he can't come down!! Just remind him what he told you when you told him about you having his first child. That he doesn't want nothing to do with her. Just because he remarried and got a son (that he accept) and he want to bad mouth you about your past. And his wife want to put in her two cents as well. Tell he to take care of their son and leave the daughter business with you. As long she is happy with you and well taken care of, let him said what he want and let it go out your other ear.
Unless they have a court order forcing visitation do not send her to London anymore.
I'm sorry -- I'm a bit confused. Would this be the English Barrister that you're having problems with?
If so, tell him he relinquished all rights to parenting when he decided he'd rather just write that check every month. If he feels he has a ';case'; for custody, tell him you'll see him in court. Otherwise, he can keep his trap shut.
After 7 kids and at least 4 relationships (that I can count from your statement) and NO record that you even elude to of child rearing issues, I would say that he has no room to squawk. Tell him to go knock up his current wife and leave you alone.
well, it sounds like he has never been there in the first place, so what right does he have to criticize you. people do what they need to do to get by. that's what you did. who cares what they think?
Question their upbringing.
Its the wife who is causing all the camotion. This man only wanted to send a check, no he thinks he is daddy of the year.
I would tell her ';Listen up honey, he only wanted to be a check daddy, he told me he disliked kids, If I were you I would take note. But until then stay out my face and out my business, What ever kind of mother I am I was a better mother than he will ever be as a father'; See what she says to that, and remind him of the deal he made regarding his child.
JEEZ 7 KIDS, U'VE BEEN KEEPING BUSY
With 7 kids sounds like you should be to busy to get really concerned,about what your ex has to say.By the way does he have any kids with this marriage.If not and he wasnt around to raise your daughter i fail to see why he even should attempt to be critical of you.Sounds like you and your husband has things under controll,I think that I would tell mr.Ex just keep putting the checks in the mail and let you do the raising.
why are you worrying about what your EX and his wife thinks?
Sounds like he's the one to blame.
your past speaks for itself.
I'm curious as to why the parental rights of this ex weren't stripped when you got married this time since the ex wanted nothing to do with your child. My advice is to seek to have his rights stripped, and your husband can adopt all the kids that aren't his.
Now as far as your daughter's behavior, that's typical of kids whose parents aren't married. In this case, the father didn't even want her, probably still wouldn't if it didn't somehow benefit him, which is why I encourage having his rights stripped.
As an add on..since there's no court ordered visitation, there's probably no child support, either. Have his rights stripped and like I said, maybe your husband can adopt the kids that aren't his. It would really be the wisest thing, anyway. What if something should happen to you? He'd only be able to keep what's legally his.
They can only be critical if you give them the power to be critical. Dont listen to them.
no one is perfect. so my answer is no.. i dont think they have any right to say jack crap about your parenting skills... heck, this comign from the guy who'd rather send a check then love to his kids? remind him of THAT next time he goes to say something.
but good lord lady.. 7 kids!? i feel lightheaded!!
What is a good online parenting circle for parents that don't have that much free time?
www.expressiveparents.com
It is a tight knit circle and very, very supportive. I have been a member for 2 years and they are like family.
Good luck and i hope to see you there!What is a good online parenting circle for parents that don't have that much free time?
Ahhh shucks!!!
I hope you just love it there!
It is a tight knit circle and very, very supportive. I have been a member for 2 years and they are like family.
Good luck and i hope to see you there!What is a good online parenting circle for parents that don't have that much free time?
Ahhh shucks!!!
I hope you just love it there!
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What parenting concerns are there?
my gf gave custody of her children to her mother because of a violent ex bf. Her daughter at 5 was molested several times. Her son(11years old) has academic concerns due to lack of study and committment. Her mother gives both children everything and seldom invokes discipline. Recently her daugther(9years old) was snooping and reluctantly found a hidden loaded gun of her grandmother and almost shot herself. And to make matters worse her son is found to be a physical and emotional bully to his sister. I need help desperately.What parenting concerns are there?
Ok. How long has grandma had custody? And, is it a temporary or permanent order?
If she has a temporary placement order which was voluntary from the girlfriend, the girlfriend can take the kids back at any point.
If it is a permanent order, or was ordered through the courts, she will have to petition the courts to change the status. She would need to prove that she has a stable home.
Was the child molested while with grandma or mom? And, has she gotten the psychological help that she needs to deal with this? The son's issues aren't enough for the court to declare the child ';at risk';. The loaded gun is obviously a concern, but, typically little to nothing can be done about it, except telling grandma to lock it away. If it is a legal gun that she owns, that is still not a crime.
Your girlfriend will obviously need to be the one to petition the court if it is legal. If it is temporary- or there is no court order- then grandma doesn't have a legal right to keep them away from her...
Please feel free to email me.What parenting concerns are there?
Call authorities about your concerns for these kids. You can do nothing else.
Don't have any children with this woman. She will not be a good parent.
First of all this doesn't really concern you. These are your girlfriend's children, you're not the one who needs help. The children have nothing to do with you.
Your girlfriend on the other hand needs to get custody of ther children back, because it is evident they are already out of control. If she signed away all parental rights she is out of luck though. But if it is just a simple guardianship all your girlfriend needs to do is go back to court and have the order overturned. From the sounds of it she is going to have a rough time with them though...hopefully she is up for it.
Ok. How long has grandma had custody? And, is it a temporary or permanent order?
If she has a temporary placement order which was voluntary from the girlfriend, the girlfriend can take the kids back at any point.
If it is a permanent order, or was ordered through the courts, she will have to petition the courts to change the status. She would need to prove that she has a stable home.
Was the child molested while with grandma or mom? And, has she gotten the psychological help that she needs to deal with this? The son's issues aren't enough for the court to declare the child ';at risk';. The loaded gun is obviously a concern, but, typically little to nothing can be done about it, except telling grandma to lock it away. If it is a legal gun that she owns, that is still not a crime.
Your girlfriend will obviously need to be the one to petition the court if it is legal. If it is temporary- or there is no court order- then grandma doesn't have a legal right to keep them away from her...
Please feel free to email me.What parenting concerns are there?
Call authorities about your concerns for these kids. You can do nothing else.
Don't have any children with this woman. She will not be a good parent.
First of all this doesn't really concern you. These are your girlfriend's children, you're not the one who needs help. The children have nothing to do with you.
Your girlfriend on the other hand needs to get custody of ther children back, because it is evident they are already out of control. If she signed away all parental rights she is out of luck though. But if it is just a simple guardianship all your girlfriend needs to do is go back to court and have the order overturned. From the sounds of it she is going to have a rough time with them though...hopefully she is up for it.
How do you feel about lesbian and gay parenting?
My partner and I have 2 kids.How do you feel about lesbian and gay parenting?
Any child who has loving and supportive parents is blessed, no matter what their sexual orientation is.How do you feel about lesbian and gay parenting?
If the gay couple is moralistic and knows how to raise children in a stable and loving environment, then the gender of the two parents should not matter.
Contrary to popular belief, gay parents would not ';confuse'; a child. In fact, studies have shown that gay parents produce stable and open-minded children who are far less bigoted than their peers who have been taught differently.
Sure, it is not at all easy to have two parents of the same sex. I'm not going to lie. But it's only because it's not the social norm. In time, people will learn that having two parents of the same sex is no more wrong than having a single parent.
I think it is fine, as long as the kids have a good upbringing. There is a shortage of good parents in the world. You can't be too picky. There are a lot of terrible straight parents. I personally think that the people that are gay, are a lot more roughened mentally cause they got to put up with crap from people.
HOWEVER, a lot of my friends seem to have issues with it. I personally think that they are dumb asses concerning that point.
';You must be the change you want to see in the world';
- Ghandhi
I don't understand why people would be ok with the idea of single parents (where one of the two genders is missing) but not with the idea of homosexual parents (where again, one of the two genders is missing). All children need is someone who'll be there for them to give them love and care. Any adult who's willing to provide love and care for the child would make a good parent.
i don't care as long as the children are taken care of and loved.there's plenty of straight couples who abuse their children,i have yet to hear of a gay couple on the news doing that kind of malicious activity.
I got no problems with it.
Same sex parenting is really no different than opposite sex parenting in my opinion.
They're probably going to be teased at some schools. If you have bring my parent to school day they'd say I don't have a dad/mom. I have two of dads/moms. That'd probably open them to teasing.
My gf and I are raising a daughter. It's sometimes a struggle (she's 12) but we're just two parents trying to raise a happy, healthy and respectful kid. I do sometimes worry about her being teased.
homosexuals should not be allowed to be parents they are teaching kids that that is acceptable when It isn't.
I think that is great and I am glad to see that you guys are able to be loving parents.
I think it's awsome for two people to share love between each other, raise children together... and thus the child grows up with love.
s' wonderful
2 loving parents? Why is there any need to complain?
it doesn't matter to me.
I think that it's ok . love has no face or gender ! be happy
I don't think it's appropriate for a child to have two mothers or two fathers. They need both in their lives and not two of each either.
Any child who has loving and supportive parents is blessed, no matter what their sexual orientation is.How do you feel about lesbian and gay parenting?
If the gay couple is moralistic and knows how to raise children in a stable and loving environment, then the gender of the two parents should not matter.
Contrary to popular belief, gay parents would not ';confuse'; a child. In fact, studies have shown that gay parents produce stable and open-minded children who are far less bigoted than their peers who have been taught differently.
Sure, it is not at all easy to have two parents of the same sex. I'm not going to lie. But it's only because it's not the social norm. In time, people will learn that having two parents of the same sex is no more wrong than having a single parent.
I think it is fine, as long as the kids have a good upbringing. There is a shortage of good parents in the world. You can't be too picky. There are a lot of terrible straight parents. I personally think that the people that are gay, are a lot more roughened mentally cause they got to put up with crap from people.
HOWEVER, a lot of my friends seem to have issues with it. I personally think that they are dumb asses concerning that point.
';You must be the change you want to see in the world';
- Ghandhi
I don't understand why people would be ok with the idea of single parents (where one of the two genders is missing) but not with the idea of homosexual parents (where again, one of the two genders is missing). All children need is someone who'll be there for them to give them love and care. Any adult who's willing to provide love and care for the child would make a good parent.
i don't care as long as the children are taken care of and loved.there's plenty of straight couples who abuse their children,i have yet to hear of a gay couple on the news doing that kind of malicious activity.
I got no problems with it.
Same sex parenting is really no different than opposite sex parenting in my opinion.
They're probably going to be teased at some schools. If you have bring my parent to school day they'd say I don't have a dad/mom. I have two of dads/moms. That'd probably open them to teasing.
My gf and I are raising a daughter. It's sometimes a struggle (she's 12) but we're just two parents trying to raise a happy, healthy and respectful kid. I do sometimes worry about her being teased.
homosexuals should not be allowed to be parents they are teaching kids that that is acceptable when It isn't.
I think that is great and I am glad to see that you guys are able to be loving parents.
I think it's awsome for two people to share love between each other, raise children together... and thus the child grows up with love.
s' wonderful
2 loving parents? Why is there any need to complain?
it doesn't matter to me.
I think that it's ok . love has no face or gender ! be happy
I don't think it's appropriate for a child to have two mothers or two fathers. They need both in their lives and not two of each either.
Does anyone know of any REALLY good overprotective parenting articles?
i will be 18 in 3 months, and my curfew is 10pm, i cant go to parties where there is drinking, i cant go to boys houses, i cant have friends over when they arent home, they have to know where i am at all times, we arent religious, and i havent done anything to lose their trust, any articles that i could present to them would be much appreciated!
thanks so much!Does anyone know of any REALLY good overprotective parenting articles?
Most of it sounds totally typical. I'm 25 and I wouldn't let my 19 year old sister go to a party where there's drinking. Not when she's staying with me. In case you weren't aware it's illegal and should something happen to you, your parents would be liable --not to mention they don't want something to happen to you.
No adult wants a 17 year old...or a 30 year old for that matter...traipsing into the house at ungodly hours of the night. It's not fair to the rest of the house. The fact that you don't see how unreasonable your requests are shows your immaturity and may be the reason for the other restrictions.
So, thanks for the TD, in 3 months you can move out and show them how mature you are...on your own dime and under your own roof.Does anyone know of any REALLY good overprotective parenting articles?
I can relate! Try these
thanks so much!Does anyone know of any REALLY good overprotective parenting articles?
Most of it sounds totally typical. I'm 25 and I wouldn't let my 19 year old sister go to a party where there's drinking. Not when she's staying with me. In case you weren't aware it's illegal and should something happen to you, your parents would be liable --not to mention they don't want something to happen to you.
No adult wants a 17 year old...or a 30 year old for that matter...traipsing into the house at ungodly hours of the night. It's not fair to the rest of the house. The fact that you don't see how unreasonable your requests are shows your immaturity and may be the reason for the other restrictions.
So, thanks for the TD, in 3 months you can move out and show them how mature you are...on your own dime and under your own roof.Does anyone know of any REALLY good overprotective parenting articles?
I can relate! Try these
To those of you who practice Attachment Parenting (ONLY)?
How do you deal with the constant criticism/judging of holding your child a lot, cosleeping and breastfeeding?To those of you who practice Attachment Parenting (ONLY)?
Oh, I got/get this CONSTANTLY! A nurse in the hospital actually had the nerve to tell me to stop holding my newborn, because he ';had to learn to be without me.'; I responded with, ';Learn to be without me?! We JUST MET!'; That shut her up. It continued with family, though. They insisted I had to put him on a schedule, let him cry himself to sleep at 6 months old (the idea still makes me cringe), not nurse him any longer than 6 months because he would be a ';mama's boy,'; told me my son would die of SIDS because we coslept (he slept through the night at a week old because of being close to me, and he's obviously still alive!), and not to use a baby sling because he'd never learn to walk and he'd be needy (as if strollers teach a baby to walk). They also told me to put him in daycare ASAP, even though I'm a full - time mother, once again so he wouldn't be needy, to let him eat junk food ';like the other kids'; (his cousins),...the list goes on. I knew I was right, as I am his mother and I know what's best for my son. I now have a bright, happy, well - adjusted, independent toddler who knows Mommy will always be there when and if he needs me. The children of some of the people who criticized me, however, still can't fall asleep on their own - at 11 years old. So keep at it, and ignore the comments. You'll be glad you did!To those of you who practice Attachment Parenting (ONLY)?
Look for supportive people in my life. My husband is good at reminding me why we're doing things this way. Seeing my kids relating to others in the world is another good reminder for me.
Go back %26amp; re-read the things that made you decide to follow your heart like this, re-read the logical %26amp; philosophical ideas that are your foundation.
Think about the time that has passed, how quickly it has passed, since your child was born. It goes by so quickly - why push them away before they are ready for it? Why do anything that doesn't feel 'right' for your family?
Edit to add: Just read the answers %26amp; wanted to reply to the 'way too hard to get them to comfort themselves' answer. It doesn't have to be. Once you %26amp; your child have formed a strong bond, you will have a better knowledge of them, of how they learn - now, with that bond, you can teach them just about anything! Attachment parenting isn't about following rules. It's about creating that trust bond between *both* of you.
You need to read and educate yourself about the kind of parenting you are practicing. You need to understand the reasons behind your style of parenting. I don't know exactly waht you are referring to but, I believe very strongly in holding and breastfeeding and cosleeping. These are decisions that you need to believe in and follow because they support the kind of parent you want to be. Unfortuanltely people judge each other all the itme and you need to be able to deal with it because, this is only the beginning!! Once you feel more confident about your decisons and your belief in you way of parenting, you will feel less judge and more proud of yoruself instead. It doesn't get any easier as they grow!!
Hi! It is hard to be a bit different in a group. It is very helpful even if there is just one other physical support to talk and share ideas with about what you are doing as there are 101 questions we have as parents everyday. We felt instinctively what we were doing was right for our kids. I didn't even know we were doing attachment parenting until a friend gave me the book! However, at the time I felt I was the only one and did get alot of mixed feedback. I still do. Also, some admiration! All I can say is to be honest with those around you and say that we all do what we feel is right and if they are really interested to know the benefits you feel talk more or give resources. I Or if you get a polite it's not for me or closed door, to simply, cuddle a bit closer for a moment with your child and be reminded by their response to you that what your doing is right for you all as a family. Hope this helps? KT
I have three children. I breastfed them all, in public and private. They are 6, 11 and 12. They still want to come and sleep in mommy's bed sometimes. I let them. Soon, they will fly the coop and what will I have left ... my memories of them. When I leave this world what will they remember ... cuddles, hugs, comfort, the feelings of being loved and cherished.
However, I did face a lot of criticism on how I was not doing things right. I finally came up with a good answer :
';You know, I used to ask the same question ... until I realized that it was none of my business';.
That usually shut people up. In the end. do what is important to you and your spouse. You don't want to be regretting giving in to peer pressure and not raising your child your way.
My solution to this one so far (bub is 8 weeks old) has been to find others with the same philosophies and spend as much time with them as possible, talking out any parenting issues with them and then do my best to avoid discussion about parenting topics with those who I know have different feelings. If it gets too irritating try to have some firm but polite responses ready such as ';I feel I am doing what is best for my child as all mothers wish to, please do not impose your ideals onto us.'; If anyone comments that cosleeping is dangerous tell them to go do their research :-)
Best wishes for you and your happy, secure family.
I practiced everything except breastfeeding with my first (couldn't do it medical reasons) and it will be the same with my second. ... I mostly jsut tell people to mind thier business. My child is very well adjusted and behaved, if they don't like how I';m raising them then screw them. Atleast she isn't running to to people at walmart, screaming for this and that. I can take her to a movie or restuarnat and she acts like a little adult.
I surround myself with like-minded individuals and families; In real life and on-line!-)
There is nothing wrong with this kind of parenting. I did it with my first one. I won;t be doing it again with my second one. It's wayyyyyy too hard to get them to comfort themselves later on.
Well, as long as you aren't breastfeeding until your child is 5... lol
I dont quite know what cosleeping is? Sharing a room?
I'm not a parent yet, but I definately dont want to be the mom whos got their kid on a leash... And I dont care who gets to see my nipple in a really expensive classy restaurant, breastfeeding is better for the baby than formula...
I think what you're doing sounds like a really good thing... But along with that you do have to find a way to teach your child some independance...
When I'm a parent with constant criticism about that, I'll tell people that I want to be the mom I never had and if that means being involved in my kids life rather than throwing them in the stroller or on a leash (for God's sake its a kid not a dog!) I'd much rather that... I think most parents dont want to put in the effort to do a good job so they criticize those who do... For me, what would get me through the criticism is that I dont want to be like my mom... No matter what... I'd rather be dead and have my child raised motherless than be like mine...
dont listen to what anyone says, thats your child and there is no such thing as to over doing it when it comes to your children. because no one is ever goona love your or take good care of your child like you do.
what is attachment parenting?
i think we all at some level do attachment parenting such as co sleeping, breastfeeding and carrying your child quiet naturally. True Attachment Parenting believes in not using pacifiers to sooth baby as it is made for the mothers benefit not the childs, so AP would offer the breast for comfort. Prams again are for mothers benefit with style and are in replacment of the mother carrying her newborn, thus doesnt foster a deeper bond that the mother and child need,thus Attachment Parenting use slings to carry babe everywhere.
I think we all do a great job in bonding with our children,So attachment parents works for some and not for others.
I partially practice this lol. I didn't mean to either. I just did what felt natural to me as a new mother. So, I cosleep and I breastfeed. I held my daughter 24/7 until she learned to crawl, cruise, and walk, so I don't really hold her much any more LOL because she's so independent now. I haven't met much criticism, except that I've gotten a few sideways comments from my MIL about cosleeping. I ignore her and tell her that my husband and I like it and it doesn't bother us. I simply just don't let many people know about what we do behind closed doors. It's none of their business. If they ask questions, then I'll answer honestly of course. If they have a problem with it, then I let them know that it does not bother us. We'll raise our daughter the way we feel is right and in a way that will bring her up to be a healthy and happy adult.shiseido
Oh, I got/get this CONSTANTLY! A nurse in the hospital actually had the nerve to tell me to stop holding my newborn, because he ';had to learn to be without me.'; I responded with, ';Learn to be without me?! We JUST MET!'; That shut her up. It continued with family, though. They insisted I had to put him on a schedule, let him cry himself to sleep at 6 months old (the idea still makes me cringe), not nurse him any longer than 6 months because he would be a ';mama's boy,'; told me my son would die of SIDS because we coslept (he slept through the night at a week old because of being close to me, and he's obviously still alive!), and not to use a baby sling because he'd never learn to walk and he'd be needy (as if strollers teach a baby to walk). They also told me to put him in daycare ASAP, even though I'm a full - time mother, once again so he wouldn't be needy, to let him eat junk food ';like the other kids'; (his cousins),...the list goes on. I knew I was right, as I am his mother and I know what's best for my son. I now have a bright, happy, well - adjusted, independent toddler who knows Mommy will always be there when and if he needs me. The children of some of the people who criticized me, however, still can't fall asleep on their own - at 11 years old. So keep at it, and ignore the comments. You'll be glad you did!To those of you who practice Attachment Parenting (ONLY)?
Look for supportive people in my life. My husband is good at reminding me why we're doing things this way. Seeing my kids relating to others in the world is another good reminder for me.
Go back %26amp; re-read the things that made you decide to follow your heart like this, re-read the logical %26amp; philosophical ideas that are your foundation.
Think about the time that has passed, how quickly it has passed, since your child was born. It goes by so quickly - why push them away before they are ready for it? Why do anything that doesn't feel 'right' for your family?
Edit to add: Just read the answers %26amp; wanted to reply to the 'way too hard to get them to comfort themselves' answer. It doesn't have to be. Once you %26amp; your child have formed a strong bond, you will have a better knowledge of them, of how they learn - now, with that bond, you can teach them just about anything! Attachment parenting isn't about following rules. It's about creating that trust bond between *both* of you.
You need to read and educate yourself about the kind of parenting you are practicing. You need to understand the reasons behind your style of parenting. I don't know exactly waht you are referring to but, I believe very strongly in holding and breastfeeding and cosleeping. These are decisions that you need to believe in and follow because they support the kind of parent you want to be. Unfortuanltely people judge each other all the itme and you need to be able to deal with it because, this is only the beginning!! Once you feel more confident about your decisons and your belief in you way of parenting, you will feel less judge and more proud of yoruself instead. It doesn't get any easier as they grow!!
Hi! It is hard to be a bit different in a group. It is very helpful even if there is just one other physical support to talk and share ideas with about what you are doing as there are 101 questions we have as parents everyday. We felt instinctively what we were doing was right for our kids. I didn't even know we were doing attachment parenting until a friend gave me the book! However, at the time I felt I was the only one and did get alot of mixed feedback. I still do. Also, some admiration! All I can say is to be honest with those around you and say that we all do what we feel is right and if they are really interested to know the benefits you feel talk more or give resources. I Or if you get a polite it's not for me or closed door, to simply, cuddle a bit closer for a moment with your child and be reminded by their response to you that what your doing is right for you all as a family. Hope this helps? KT
I have three children. I breastfed them all, in public and private. They are 6, 11 and 12. They still want to come and sleep in mommy's bed sometimes. I let them. Soon, they will fly the coop and what will I have left ... my memories of them. When I leave this world what will they remember ... cuddles, hugs, comfort, the feelings of being loved and cherished.
However, I did face a lot of criticism on how I was not doing things right. I finally came up with a good answer :
';You know, I used to ask the same question ... until I realized that it was none of my business';.
That usually shut people up. In the end. do what is important to you and your spouse. You don't want to be regretting giving in to peer pressure and not raising your child your way.
My solution to this one so far (bub is 8 weeks old) has been to find others with the same philosophies and spend as much time with them as possible, talking out any parenting issues with them and then do my best to avoid discussion about parenting topics with those who I know have different feelings. If it gets too irritating try to have some firm but polite responses ready such as ';I feel I am doing what is best for my child as all mothers wish to, please do not impose your ideals onto us.'; If anyone comments that cosleeping is dangerous tell them to go do their research :-)
Best wishes for you and your happy, secure family.
I practiced everything except breastfeeding with my first (couldn't do it medical reasons) and it will be the same with my second. ... I mostly jsut tell people to mind thier business. My child is very well adjusted and behaved, if they don't like how I';m raising them then screw them. Atleast she isn't running to to people at walmart, screaming for this and that. I can take her to a movie or restuarnat and she acts like a little adult.
I surround myself with like-minded individuals and families; In real life and on-line!-)
There is nothing wrong with this kind of parenting. I did it with my first one. I won;t be doing it again with my second one. It's wayyyyyy too hard to get them to comfort themselves later on.
Well, as long as you aren't breastfeeding until your child is 5... lol
I dont quite know what cosleeping is? Sharing a room?
I'm not a parent yet, but I definately dont want to be the mom whos got their kid on a leash... And I dont care who gets to see my nipple in a really expensive classy restaurant, breastfeeding is better for the baby than formula...
I think what you're doing sounds like a really good thing... But along with that you do have to find a way to teach your child some independance...
When I'm a parent with constant criticism about that, I'll tell people that I want to be the mom I never had and if that means being involved in my kids life rather than throwing them in the stroller or on a leash (for God's sake its a kid not a dog!) I'd much rather that... I think most parents dont want to put in the effort to do a good job so they criticize those who do... For me, what would get me through the criticism is that I dont want to be like my mom... No matter what... I'd rather be dead and have my child raised motherless than be like mine...
dont listen to what anyone says, thats your child and there is no such thing as to over doing it when it comes to your children. because no one is ever goona love your or take good care of your child like you do.
what is attachment parenting?
i think we all at some level do attachment parenting such as co sleeping, breastfeeding and carrying your child quiet naturally. True Attachment Parenting believes in not using pacifiers to sooth baby as it is made for the mothers benefit not the childs, so AP would offer the breast for comfort. Prams again are for mothers benefit with style and are in replacment of the mother carrying her newborn, thus doesnt foster a deeper bond that the mother and child need,thus Attachment Parenting use slings to carry babe everywhere.
I think we all do a great job in bonding with our children,So attachment parents works for some and not for others.
I partially practice this lol. I didn't mean to either. I just did what felt natural to me as a new mother. So, I cosleep and I breastfeed. I held my daughter 24/7 until she learned to crawl, cruise, and walk, so I don't really hold her much any more LOL because she's so independent now. I haven't met much criticism, except that I've gotten a few sideways comments from my MIL about cosleeping. I ignore her and tell her that my husband and I like it and it doesn't bother us. I simply just don't let many people know about what we do behind closed doors. It's none of their business. If they ask questions, then I'll answer honestly of course. If they have a problem with it, then I let them know that it does not bother us. We'll raise our daughter the way we feel is right and in a way that will bring her up to be a healthy and happy adult.
I recently adopted 2 parakeets-any 'bird parenting' tips would be very helpful-they are very fearful of me?
Always imagine a well behaved bird when you are with them. If you are teaching them to step up picture in your mind a perfect step up, no biting. If you think they will bite, change your mind and picture a non-biting bird.They have a weird way of knowing what you are thinking.
always be calm relaxed and slow when with them. Talk to them in high pitched cooing sounds and repeat words often so they become familiar.I recently adopted 2 parakeets-any 'bird parenting' tips would be very helpful-they are very fearful of me?
I GREW UP WITH A VERY INTELLIGENT PARAKEET SHE WAS A DELIGHT AND A MEMBER OF THE FAMILY DON'T SHOW YOUR FEAR OF BEING BITE RELAX AND YOUR BIRD WILL, WE NAMED OUR BIRD PETE THEN WE FOUND OUT HE WAS A SHE SHE WOULD SAY PRETTY PETE ALL DAY. WE THOUGHT SHE WAS LONELY SO WE GOT A SECOND BIRD SHE WASN'T THAT LONELY THE NEXT DAY SHE OPENED THE CAGE DOOR WITH HER BEAK AND PUSHED IT OUT WE WATCHED HER TRYING TO CLOSE THE DOOR BACK ENJOY THEY EVEN WILL GIVE KISSES ON YOUR FACE WITH THAT LITTLE RICE KRISPY LOOKING TONGUE.
always be calm relaxed and slow when with them. Talk to them in high pitched cooing sounds and repeat words often so they become familiar.I recently adopted 2 parakeets-any 'bird parenting' tips would be very helpful-they are very fearful of me?
I GREW UP WITH A VERY INTELLIGENT PARAKEET SHE WAS A DELIGHT AND A MEMBER OF THE FAMILY DON'T SHOW YOUR FEAR OF BEING BITE RELAX AND YOUR BIRD WILL, WE NAMED OUR BIRD PETE THEN WE FOUND OUT HE WAS A SHE SHE WOULD SAY PRETTY PETE ALL DAY. WE THOUGHT SHE WAS LONELY SO WE GOT A SECOND BIRD SHE WASN'T THAT LONELY THE NEXT DAY SHE OPENED THE CAGE DOOR WITH HER BEAK AND PUSHED IT OUT WE WATCHED HER TRYING TO CLOSE THE DOOR BACK ENJOY THEY EVEN WILL GIVE KISSES ON YOUR FACE WITH THAT LITTLE RICE KRISPY LOOKING TONGUE.
What are your all time best tips for parenting?
any age. some of the best parenting tips ive ever heard were on random message boards or comments lists by moms.What are your all time best tips for parenting?
stay persistent.
keep communication lines open.
give them a few choices.
grow with your child.
Be the parent.And the adult.
Lots of hugs,love and kisses until they tell you to stop..lol..then just say it.
Be patient.
Be understanding.
Teach them sense of humor.
Relax..try to stay calm.
Punishments are important....whether you like to do them or not.
Unconditional love.
Teach them to love.
Listen to them.
Don't be afraid to take a cue from your child.
Know them.
Encourage the good and redirect the bad.
Set a good example the best you can.
Give them age appropriate responsibility.
Put them first.
Do your best and you will see the results.
Thats all i can think of at the moment.What are your all time best tips for parenting?
Be consistent and predictable in everything you do; children thrive on routine and it's good for reward and punishment.
Also... avoid negative reinforcement. A good example is saying ';don't you kiss grandma bye-bye'; when you really want the child to do so. This gives mixed messages when you DO want them to NOT do something.
Also... teach your child to find pride in themself and not only from a parent/guardian. As the child grows to teens, it's important for them to recognize when they've tried their hardest and maybe not 'won' at something. Winning isn't always important and they can be proud in themself for giving their best.
The more and more parenting 'ideas' I hear from Dr Phil the more I learn.
The thing that mostly jumps out in my mind is if you say something to your child then back it up. If you tell your child to clean his room or he is grounded, then ground him if it doesnt get clean. I think a big problem right now with some parents is that they dont back up there words. You need to set a good example for a child because one day he is going to grow up and be on his own and you want him to be honest and reliable.
Children will never fit a specific mold... so don't force them into it.
My best tip I got from my mother...
Your child is a small, inexperienced human being. Not a complete moron....Talk to him and treat him as a human being.
Remember....my hubby looks at our son not as his son....but his replacement.
Raise them to respect others and love life.
Kids are people too! Not just kids!
respect your child as you would respect any other being. let your child grow the way they chooses life. do not push your wishes into them. don't let them feel in any pressure.
as parents, learn how to communicate effectively for your child to learn the consequences of their actions.
DISCIPLINE FAIRLY AND ALWAYS BE CONSISTENT!!!!!!
Start with simple instructions to the child. Begin with small punishments, such as a harsh voice. Escalate rapidly, so that the child learns that bad behavior quickly leads to bad consequences. Show them added love as soon as they comply. You should frequently show them affection that is not connected with any particular desirable act, but which they receive just because you love them. They need and deserve this, and it develops the bond which makes them want to please you with proper behavior.
cvbnm
stay persistent.
keep communication lines open.
give them a few choices.
grow with your child.
Be the parent.And the adult.
Lots of hugs,love and kisses until they tell you to stop..lol..then just say it.
Be patient.
Be understanding.
Teach them sense of humor.
Relax..try to stay calm.
Punishments are important....whether you like to do them or not.
Unconditional love.
Teach them to love.
Listen to them.
Don't be afraid to take a cue from your child.
Know them.
Encourage the good and redirect the bad.
Set a good example the best you can.
Give them age appropriate responsibility.
Put them first.
Do your best and you will see the results.
Thats all i can think of at the moment.What are your all time best tips for parenting?
Be consistent and predictable in everything you do; children thrive on routine and it's good for reward and punishment.
Also... avoid negative reinforcement. A good example is saying ';don't you kiss grandma bye-bye'; when you really want the child to do so. This gives mixed messages when you DO want them to NOT do something.
Also... teach your child to find pride in themself and not only from a parent/guardian. As the child grows to teens, it's important for them to recognize when they've tried their hardest and maybe not 'won' at something. Winning isn't always important and they can be proud in themself for giving their best.
The more and more parenting 'ideas' I hear from Dr Phil the more I learn.
The thing that mostly jumps out in my mind is if you say something to your child then back it up. If you tell your child to clean his room or he is grounded, then ground him if it doesnt get clean. I think a big problem right now with some parents is that they dont back up there words. You need to set a good example for a child because one day he is going to grow up and be on his own and you want him to be honest and reliable.
Children will never fit a specific mold... so don't force them into it.
My best tip I got from my mother...
Your child is a small, inexperienced human being. Not a complete moron....Talk to him and treat him as a human being.
Remember....my hubby looks at our son not as his son....but his replacement.
Raise them to respect others and love life.
Kids are people too! Not just kids!
respect your child as you would respect any other being. let your child grow the way they chooses life. do not push your wishes into them. don't let them feel in any pressure.
as parents, learn how to communicate effectively for your child to learn the consequences of their actions.
DISCIPLINE FAIRLY AND ALWAYS BE CONSISTENT!!!!!!
Start with simple instructions to the child. Begin with small punishments, such as a harsh voice. Escalate rapidly, so that the child learns that bad behavior quickly leads to bad consequences. Show them added love as soon as they comply. You should frequently show them affection that is not connected with any particular desirable act, but which they receive just because you love them. They need and deserve this, and it develops the bond which makes them want to please you with proper behavior.
cvbnm
Co-parenting techniques with step parents and bio parents?
Step parents: how much of a role do you play in parenting your step children?
Bio parents: how much of a role do you think is appropriate for step parents?
Does it depend on the relationship? Cirumstances? Any exceptions?
Why?
Just wondering what other people do...I'm kind of bored, my boss made me come in today.Co-parenting techniques with step parents and bio parents?
I am a stepparent. My role is to be a parenting partner to my husband in his life. That means that, when his child is with us, we work as equals to parent her. When he's dealing with his ex re: co-parenting issues, I am his support person, but he is the only one who contacts her.
About 1.5 years ago, after mom moved my stepdaughter out of state without notice and refused to allow us to even exercise visitation, the courts reversed primary residence to my husband -and- my stepdaughter moved in with us. Since then, mom has refused to exercise her visitation or make any contact at all. So, I'm now acting as dad's parenting partner %26amp; the main adult woman in her life. But, still, stepmom - dad's wife - not 'mom'. That position is already filled in her heart %26amp; in her life %26amp; that's OK. Because my position is special, too.Co-parenting techniques with step parents and bio parents?
My husband is step parent to my eldest son and he's bio dad to our three year old. He does put his own son first and it causes a lot of friction as he lets him get away with too much and doesn't understand how hurtful it is to my son.
My husband is unthinking and selfish and I hope that my eldest son doesn't leave to go and live with his bio father one day because my husband tells him off so much. I guess my marriage will be over if that ever happens.
My husband should grow up and stop being so self-centered.
In a perfect world, the bio parents should sit down and decide the rules of the house every six months. But they can't.
Usually. Each household parents need to make those rules and explain them to the kids. Write them out and display them too. Also display the consequences of going against the rules. If the rules are broken, just follow thru. If a problem arises, the bio parent should handle it. Good luck
As a bio parent I think a step parent should take into consideration that the child has both a mother and a father. I feel that both sets of parens need to be on the same page when it comes to rules to live by and disciplining using the same measures. If the custodial parent uses time outs, then the non-custodial parent/step parent need to use time outs. If the child isn't allowed soda and junk food in the custodial home then the non-custodial parent and step need to follow through.
This keeps everything on an even kiel and the child knows exactly what is expected of him-her
You should play just as much of a role as the bio parent does. If the kid does not like you then you might not want to punish as much until the kid becomes used to you. But that does not mean the child should get away with things. He or she has to reliaze that although you are not their bio parent you still deserive the respect and gratitude as if you were. The child sooner or later will begin to respect you. know wheather the child is ever going to like or love you as a parent is unown only the child will know.
If both the bio parents are active in the childs life then the step parent should back off for the most part and just be there for the child when the child comes to them for help. Step parent should not make any big choices for the child without bi parents consent. If i remarried I dont think I would my new husband punishing my children I think I would want that job left to me and my kids father. But thats just me!
I loveeed watching that movie step mother i think it was called with julia roberts!!!! Step parents can make a great impact on a child's life. I was lucky to have a really great one in my life who never over stepped the lines but was a great influence on my life.
I treat my step children the same as I treat my bio son, I love, discipline, attend school functions and sporting events for all of them. The childrens mother used to hate me and would say horrible things to the kids about me and didn't want me at any of their functions, but finally I told her I am not going anywhere and I am very much a part of their lives (we have joint placement 50/50). She would get mad at me for reading with them at night, and I just told her unless I am beating or mistreating your children you need to get over it, we get along much better now and actually will sit together at ball games and things. So anyway I am done rambling, haha! only a half hour left of work for me :)!
Bio parents: how much of a role do you think is appropriate for step parents?
Does it depend on the relationship? Cirumstances? Any exceptions?
Why?
Just wondering what other people do...I'm kind of bored, my boss made me come in today.Co-parenting techniques with step parents and bio parents?
I am a stepparent. My role is to be a parenting partner to my husband in his life. That means that, when his child is with us, we work as equals to parent her. When he's dealing with his ex re: co-parenting issues, I am his support person, but he is the only one who contacts her.
About 1.5 years ago, after mom moved my stepdaughter out of state without notice and refused to allow us to even exercise visitation, the courts reversed primary residence to my husband -and- my stepdaughter moved in with us. Since then, mom has refused to exercise her visitation or make any contact at all. So, I'm now acting as dad's parenting partner %26amp; the main adult woman in her life. But, still, stepmom - dad's wife - not 'mom'. That position is already filled in her heart %26amp; in her life %26amp; that's OK. Because my position is special, too.Co-parenting techniques with step parents and bio parents?
My husband is step parent to my eldest son and he's bio dad to our three year old. He does put his own son first and it causes a lot of friction as he lets him get away with too much and doesn't understand how hurtful it is to my son.
My husband is unthinking and selfish and I hope that my eldest son doesn't leave to go and live with his bio father one day because my husband tells him off so much. I guess my marriage will be over if that ever happens.
My husband should grow up and stop being so self-centered.
In a perfect world, the bio parents should sit down and decide the rules of the house every six months. But they can't.
Usually. Each household parents need to make those rules and explain them to the kids. Write them out and display them too. Also display the consequences of going against the rules. If the rules are broken, just follow thru. If a problem arises, the bio parent should handle it. Good luck
As a bio parent I think a step parent should take into consideration that the child has both a mother and a father. I feel that both sets of parens need to be on the same page when it comes to rules to live by and disciplining using the same measures. If the custodial parent uses time outs, then the non-custodial parent/step parent need to use time outs. If the child isn't allowed soda and junk food in the custodial home then the non-custodial parent and step need to follow through.
This keeps everything on an even kiel and the child knows exactly what is expected of him-her
You should play just as much of a role as the bio parent does. If the kid does not like you then you might not want to punish as much until the kid becomes used to you. But that does not mean the child should get away with things. He or she has to reliaze that although you are not their bio parent you still deserive the respect and gratitude as if you were. The child sooner or later will begin to respect you. know wheather the child is ever going to like or love you as a parent is unown only the child will know.
If both the bio parents are active in the childs life then the step parent should back off for the most part and just be there for the child when the child comes to them for help. Step parent should not make any big choices for the child without bi parents consent. If i remarried I dont think I would my new husband punishing my children I think I would want that job left to me and my kids father. But thats just me!
I loveeed watching that movie step mother i think it was called with julia roberts!!!! Step parents can make a great impact on a child's life. I was lucky to have a really great one in my life who never over stepped the lines but was a great influence on my life.
I treat my step children the same as I treat my bio son, I love, discipline, attend school functions and sporting events for all of them. The childrens mother used to hate me and would say horrible things to the kids about me and didn't want me at any of their functions, but finally I told her I am not going anywhere and I am very much a part of their lives (we have joint placement 50/50). She would get mad at me for reading with them at night, and I just told her unless I am beating or mistreating your children you need to get over it, we get along much better now and actually will sit together at ball games and things. So anyway I am done rambling, haha! only a half hour left of work for me :)!
If you have a centrelink debt with parenting payment partnered?
can centrelink take you family tax benefit suppliment to recover that debt?If you have a centrelink debt with parenting payment partnered?
They can and will.
They can and will.
Do you support or oppose same-sex parenting?
I support it.Do you support or oppose same-sex parenting?
I completely support it (both emotionally and scientifically). See the WebMD article below:
WebMD Health NewsReviewed by Louise Chang, MDOct.12, 2005 (Washington) -- Children growing up in same-sex parental households do not necessarily have differences in self-esteem, gender identity, or emotional problems from children growing up in heterosexual parent homes.
';There are a lot of children with at least one gay or lesbian parent,'; says Ellen C. Perrin, MD, professor of pediatrics at Tufts University School of Medicine in Boston. She revealed the findings at the American Academy of Pediatrics Conference and Exhibition.
Between 1 million and 6 million children in the U.S. are being reared by committed lesbian or gay couples, she says. Children being raised by same-sex parents were either born to a heterosexual couple, adopted, or conceived through artificial insemination.
';The vast consensus of all the studies shows that children of same-sex parents do as well as children whose parents are heterosexual in every way,'; she tells WebMD. ';In some ways children of same-sex parents actually may have advantages over other family structures.';
Study Results
Researchers looked at information gleaned from 15 studies on more than 500 children, evaluating possible stigma, teasing and social isolation, adjustment and self-esteem, opposite gender role models, sexual orientation, and strengths.
Studies from 1981 to 1994, including 260 children reared by either heterosexual mothers or same-sex mothers after divorce, found no differences in intelligence, type or prevalence of psychiatric disorders, self-esteem, well-being, peer relationships, couple relationships, or parental stress.
';Some studies showed that single heterosexual parents' children have more difficulties than children who have parents of the same sex,'; Perrin says. ';They did better in discipline, self-esteem, and had less psychosocial difficulties at home and at school.';
______________________________________…
See the full article at WEBMD at the URL below.Do you support or oppose same-sex parenting?
I support it, since there has been absolutely no evidence of it being worse than opposite-sex parenting. And yes, we've seen enough examples over the past 50 years to compare it. In fact, I know some people first-hand, and they didn't turn out ';confused'; or ';screwed up';.
I support adoption of kids to good parents. Whether it's one parent, 2 parents of the same sex, or 2 parents of different sexes. Too many kids are in the foster system, and too many foster parents are in it for the paycheck. As a teacher, I see abused foster kids in my area every single year. Often it's the same foster parents (different kids) we're reporting each year.
i have no opinion on it since i don't feel that i have enough information and knowledge to make an informed decision.
the interest and well-bieng of the child must come first over teh rights of the same-sex parents.
i have read that there can or can't be issues that affect the child psycologically.
i would imagine you are putting this in the context of adoption and not artificial inseminiation since that is clearly a case of a woman having a right to childbirth, partner, same sex partner or no partner at all.
i think there are multiple factors here and IF there is no psycological affect on the child from bieng raised in such a household AND if those parents are loving parents, then i would support it.
if there are psycological consequenses that would really LEGITIMATELY be harmful to the child of a same-sex couple as opposed to a loving heterosexual coulple, then i would have a problem with it.
naturally im presuming that in this case ALL the couples we are talking about are in facat loving GOOD parental candidates.
obviously, it would not be fair to make a comparison between two loving same sex parents and two complete **** tard heterosexual parants or compare two **** tard gay parents vs two loving heterosexual parents.
i know there have been studies done, and some say one thing others say the other- i'm just saying that the validity of those studies is what i would base my decision on favoring what is best for the child- but since i don't know what the accuracy of those is- because i haven't read up on the subject,
i have to ';punt'; and just say whatever is best for the child.
EDIT:
if someone here actually has some legitimate articles on studies of this- please feel free to message them to me.
I do have gay friends. I do believe that people of any sexuality can give love to a child. And, if they are financially in position, why not.
I used to oppose it, because I thought it would cause psychological issues on the child down the line. No one really thinks about the future issues, just instant gratification of having a child. For example, I know that there are moments that will cause the children pain as a kid, like other kids making fun at pta or soccer games, because kids are cruel. But, I realized ppl have problems everywhere. Kids get made fun of for coming from poor or alcoholic backgrounds just as easily as coming from a homosexual one. So, there is no such thing as a perfect family. Even the ones that seem to have it all don't.
In their teen years, I think they will mature enough to understand and love their parents as they are homosexual or not. But, for both the child and parents involved, I think honesty will make for a healthy relationship.
i oppose those who oppose it. if you have some better excuse then a religious one, say something. if you have a better excuse then tradition, say something. its been going on forever, its only mass media that is making people make a big deal of this. if you have real evidence with something bad about it, then something, if not, stay out of others lives.
I support it. In Florida gays are allowed to foster children but it is forbidden to adopt. Many times it is long-term foster care up to five years or more or they foster even teenagers which no one seems to want to shelter. How then if they last the same time are they any different? Maybe the government provides them with less support? I find it disgraceful! Ummmm, is there a disconnect somewhere? Ruh-tarded!
I completely, 100% support it. Why shouldn't two people of the same sex not be allowed to parent a child?? It is just as if someone says that they do not support blacks or asians parenting, you know what I mean? It's just not fair. Everyone should have equal rights in everything they do, it's the right thing to do and I'm glad I agree with you. :)
Children need to be raised in a loving secure household regardless of the sex of the parents. I am for it. I know of a gay couple who took in two severely handicapped children who otherwise would have never found a home. I think they are amazing and generous people.
I support it. Too many children grow up without any parents, at all. Two loving parents of any gender is way better than no parents.
--
Regards,
John Popelish
Support. There are thousands of children in orphanages that are in desperate need of a home. Straight couples will more likely have their own children but gays can't. They should adopt.
Strongly support it provided that the couple are decent moral people. The same rule applies to heterosexual couples.
I think it is fine if they adopt a child whose parents are deceased. I do not support gays going to child protective services to get children abducted from their homes by the government.
i support it if you are adopting and taking children out of an orphanage. a good home, even with gay parents, is better than an orphanage
i support it 100%
there are too many children without homes and same-sex parents can be just as good as any others.
support it,
and delete me if you want.
Anyone who doesn't is a bastard.
It doesn't matter if their gay, as long as there a loving parent.
Support. Same sex couples often adopt later in life and are much more prepared to raise children.
I definitely support it! Being gay/lesbian/bi/etc. does not mean people aren't good, loving parents!
As long as a parent controls their damn kid I don't care whether the parent is gay, transgender, blue, or purple.
I support it.
Nothing in this world or the next could be worse than my opposite-sex parents were.
I support it.
I don't see the big deal as long as they have the money to do it.
oppose
support
support
I oppose it.
I don't have a problem with it.
Do you support parenting by parents who practice bestiality? what about incest?
If not, why not?
Oppose. It's unnatural.
I think it's weird and confusing, but that's just me. I don't really care if people do it. Whatevs.
I completely support it (both emotionally and scientifically). See the WebMD article below:
WebMD Health NewsReviewed by Louise Chang, MDOct.12, 2005 (Washington) -- Children growing up in same-sex parental households do not necessarily have differences in self-esteem, gender identity, or emotional problems from children growing up in heterosexual parent homes.
';There are a lot of children with at least one gay or lesbian parent,'; says Ellen C. Perrin, MD, professor of pediatrics at Tufts University School of Medicine in Boston. She revealed the findings at the American Academy of Pediatrics Conference and Exhibition.
Between 1 million and 6 million children in the U.S. are being reared by committed lesbian or gay couples, she says. Children being raised by same-sex parents were either born to a heterosexual couple, adopted, or conceived through artificial insemination.
';The vast consensus of all the studies shows that children of same-sex parents do as well as children whose parents are heterosexual in every way,'; she tells WebMD. ';In some ways children of same-sex parents actually may have advantages over other family structures.';
Study Results
Researchers looked at information gleaned from 15 studies on more than 500 children, evaluating possible stigma, teasing and social isolation, adjustment and self-esteem, opposite gender role models, sexual orientation, and strengths.
Studies from 1981 to 1994, including 260 children reared by either heterosexual mothers or same-sex mothers after divorce, found no differences in intelligence, type or prevalence of psychiatric disorders, self-esteem, well-being, peer relationships, couple relationships, or parental stress.
';Some studies showed that single heterosexual parents' children have more difficulties than children who have parents of the same sex,'; Perrin says. ';They did better in discipline, self-esteem, and had less psychosocial difficulties at home and at school.';
______________________________________…
See the full article at WEBMD at the URL below.Do you support or oppose same-sex parenting?
I support it, since there has been absolutely no evidence of it being worse than opposite-sex parenting. And yes, we've seen enough examples over the past 50 years to compare it. In fact, I know some people first-hand, and they didn't turn out ';confused'; or ';screwed up';.
I support adoption of kids to good parents. Whether it's one parent, 2 parents of the same sex, or 2 parents of different sexes. Too many kids are in the foster system, and too many foster parents are in it for the paycheck. As a teacher, I see abused foster kids in my area every single year. Often it's the same foster parents (different kids) we're reporting each year.
i have no opinion on it since i don't feel that i have enough information and knowledge to make an informed decision.
the interest and well-bieng of the child must come first over teh rights of the same-sex parents.
i have read that there can or can't be issues that affect the child psycologically.
i would imagine you are putting this in the context of adoption and not artificial inseminiation since that is clearly a case of a woman having a right to childbirth, partner, same sex partner or no partner at all.
i think there are multiple factors here and IF there is no psycological affect on the child from bieng raised in such a household AND if those parents are loving parents, then i would support it.
if there are psycological consequenses that would really LEGITIMATELY be harmful to the child of a same-sex couple as opposed to a loving heterosexual coulple, then i would have a problem with it.
naturally im presuming that in this case ALL the couples we are talking about are in facat loving GOOD parental candidates.
obviously, it would not be fair to make a comparison between two loving same sex parents and two complete **** tard heterosexual parants or compare two **** tard gay parents vs two loving heterosexual parents.
i know there have been studies done, and some say one thing others say the other- i'm just saying that the validity of those studies is what i would base my decision on favoring what is best for the child- but since i don't know what the accuracy of those is- because i haven't read up on the subject,
i have to ';punt'; and just say whatever is best for the child.
EDIT:
if someone here actually has some legitimate articles on studies of this- please feel free to message them to me.
I do have gay friends. I do believe that people of any sexuality can give love to a child. And, if they are financially in position, why not.
I used to oppose it, because I thought it would cause psychological issues on the child down the line. No one really thinks about the future issues, just instant gratification of having a child. For example, I know that there are moments that will cause the children pain as a kid, like other kids making fun at pta or soccer games, because kids are cruel. But, I realized ppl have problems everywhere. Kids get made fun of for coming from poor or alcoholic backgrounds just as easily as coming from a homosexual one. So, there is no such thing as a perfect family. Even the ones that seem to have it all don't.
In their teen years, I think they will mature enough to understand and love their parents as they are homosexual or not. But, for both the child and parents involved, I think honesty will make for a healthy relationship.
i oppose those who oppose it. if you have some better excuse then a religious one, say something. if you have a better excuse then tradition, say something. its been going on forever, its only mass media that is making people make a big deal of this. if you have real evidence with something bad about it, then something, if not, stay out of others lives.
I support it. In Florida gays are allowed to foster children but it is forbidden to adopt. Many times it is long-term foster care up to five years or more or they foster even teenagers which no one seems to want to shelter. How then if they last the same time are they any different? Maybe the government provides them with less support? I find it disgraceful! Ummmm, is there a disconnect somewhere? Ruh-tarded!
I completely, 100% support it. Why shouldn't two people of the same sex not be allowed to parent a child?? It is just as if someone says that they do not support blacks or asians parenting, you know what I mean? It's just not fair. Everyone should have equal rights in everything they do, it's the right thing to do and I'm glad I agree with you. :)
Children need to be raised in a loving secure household regardless of the sex of the parents. I am for it. I know of a gay couple who took in two severely handicapped children who otherwise would have never found a home. I think they are amazing and generous people.
I support it. Too many children grow up without any parents, at all. Two loving parents of any gender is way better than no parents.
--
Regards,
John Popelish
Support. There are thousands of children in orphanages that are in desperate need of a home. Straight couples will more likely have their own children but gays can't. They should adopt.
Strongly support it provided that the couple are decent moral people. The same rule applies to heterosexual couples.
I think it is fine if they adopt a child whose parents are deceased. I do not support gays going to child protective services to get children abducted from their homes by the government.
i support it if you are adopting and taking children out of an orphanage. a good home, even with gay parents, is better than an orphanage
i support it 100%
there are too many children without homes and same-sex parents can be just as good as any others.
support it,
and delete me if you want.
Anyone who doesn't is a bastard.
It doesn't matter if their gay, as long as there a loving parent.
Support. Same sex couples often adopt later in life and are much more prepared to raise children.
I definitely support it! Being gay/lesbian/bi/etc. does not mean people aren't good, loving parents!
As long as a parent controls their damn kid I don't care whether the parent is gay, transgender, blue, or purple.
I support it.
Nothing in this world or the next could be worse than my opposite-sex parents were.
I support it.
I don't see the big deal as long as they have the money to do it.
oppose
support
support
I oppose it.
I don't have a problem with it.
Do you support parenting by parents who practice bestiality? what about incest?
If not, why not?
Oppose. It's unnatural.
I think it's weird and confusing, but that's just me. I don't really care if people do it. Whatevs.
If you ask silly parenting questions, does that make you a silly parent?
if you answer questions in the same manner does that also mean you are a silly parent?If you ask silly parenting questions, does that make you a silly parent?
Or a stupid parent... or a misinformed parent.. or a caring parent..
or a troll....
or one of us. LOLIf you ask silly parenting questions, does that make you a silly parent?
Of course not. This means you're trying your best! Asking about something you don't know shows that you want whats best for your child. Especially if you're a new parent. Don't be afraid to ask something so you can learn to help your child! :)
I don't ask silly questions about parenting on Y!A but i do ask silly questions of my family and they think i'm a bit of a loon. Im not a ';silly'; parent though.
I hope it makes you a silly parent. If I were a kid I would much rather have a silly parent than a boring, parent with a stick up their butt.
Shall I go order some ';team silly'; badges?
According to some Y!A users, it means that you are useless, and maybe even a troll. I tell those people to grow a sense of humor.
Besides, nothing wrong with being silly :)
this is hypothetical, right?
but no, to be accurate, it could also make you a silly non-parent troll.
Define silly :)
No. lol.
LOL no
no it just shows how uneducated you are
No, it just makes you able to be humorous....and not one of them snobs with their nose stuck up their butts!shiseido
Or a stupid parent... or a misinformed parent.. or a caring parent..
or a troll....
or one of us. LOLIf you ask silly parenting questions, does that make you a silly parent?
Of course not. This means you're trying your best! Asking about something you don't know shows that you want whats best for your child. Especially if you're a new parent. Don't be afraid to ask something so you can learn to help your child! :)
I don't ask silly questions about parenting on Y!A but i do ask silly questions of my family and they think i'm a bit of a loon. Im not a ';silly'; parent though.
I hope it makes you a silly parent. If I were a kid I would much rather have a silly parent than a boring, parent with a stick up their butt.
Shall I go order some ';team silly'; badges?
According to some Y!A users, it means that you are useless, and maybe even a troll. I tell those people to grow a sense of humor.
Besides, nothing wrong with being silly :)
this is hypothetical, right?
but no, to be accurate, it could also make you a silly non-parent troll.
Define silly :)
No. lol.
LOL no
no it just shows how uneducated you are
No, it just makes you able to be humorous....and not one of them snobs with their nose stuck up their butts!
Parenting -- what to do if your child throws things on the floor continually?
For my 1 year old nephew, his mother (my aunt) tells me to just ignore him when he throws things on the floor, and keep picking it back up. Well, at one meal time, for example, he'll throw his spoon or cup on the floor 20 times, and although I want to respect her parental wishes, I'm positive that it's not right. I'm not even allowed to use the word ';no,'; ';don't do that'; or ';we don't throw things on the floor'; in his presence! How crazy is that?! Anyway, shouldn't you say something like the 3 things I listed in the previous sentence and then if he continues to throw it, just take it away from him until he learns to act right? My point is, how is he expected to differentiate between what's a game and what's not if no one even tells him what's right or wrong (she's literally NOT ONCE even told him not to throw it). He's turning into a brat and his mother does everything to accomodate his every wish. Now that he's not napping, my aunt walks around carrying him until he falls asleepParenting -- what to do if your child throws things on the floor continually?
If your aunt doesn't do something about this now he is going to be a total brat and want everything when he's older. It's only going to get worse. He needs to be corrected, he's going to have to learn right from wrong. When he does that just tell to stop in a authorative voice and leave whatever he threw on the floor. Don't pick it up cause he's never going to learn. If you pick it up he's going to think that it's ok and keep doing it. If you just leave it there eventually he will figure out that throwing it isn't soing him any good so he will give up. I'm sure he's going to get upset and cry and scream but he'll get over it. It may take some time but if you keep it up he'll stop. If he doesn't listen the first few times he does it then slap his hand, not hard but this will help him realize what he is doing is wrong. Good luck!!Parenting -- what to do if your child throws things on the floor continually?
No page or website can help you with that. He is spolied to the max. I alwasy tell my son no and not to do ti and if he keeps on I take things away or put him in his time out chair. Its fine to a certain extent but they need to knwo dinner time is nt for playing and throwing.
I have a seventeen month old baby. I am very well read and have a ton of books on raising children. There is nothing wrong with gently saying ';no'; to a one year old. How else will he learn? Many one year old children like to throw things down and it becomes a game when the adult returns the object back to him. Your best bet is to gently say no, pick the object up and PUT IT AWAY. If it is meal time and he has thrown his bottle, he probably is not ravenous anyway, so you should still put it away (you can give it back after a few minutes when he has forgotten this little game!)
Now that you know you were right, unfortunately, it's not your kid and you DO have to respect his Mom's wishes. There is nothing more likely to alienate you from your nephews life than to tell his mom that she is doing it all wrong.
That said, it's not like it's going to ruin his life, it will just take him longer to outgrow this phase. Grin and bear it..lol!
I just saw the comment that recommended slapping his hand. Not a good idea. One year olds don't need to learn through intimidation!
hes learning how to wrap mummy round his little finger she will find it hard when there is something she doesn't want him to do but he doesnt know the word no
Well unfortunately there isn't much that you can do. More then likely if you try to talk to your aunt she'll just get mad at you for telling her how to parent her child. But your right what she's doing is in no way helping her son. When he throws things he needs to be told NO! With my daughter if she throw it once she got her hand smacked (not real hard just enough so she knew what she did was wrong) then if she did it again she lost what ever it was until she would behave herself. Kid's need discipline! If they don't have consequences to their action's they will grow up thinking they can do what ever they want. Your Aunt will realize how she's messed up when her son starts kindergarten and she has to go to the school and get him because of his behavior. Good Luck if you do try to talk to her I hope you can get thou to her before it get alot harder to correct the mistakes.
Beat him with a belt.
My first baby was spoiled and I regretted it and worked very hard to change what I had done. With the throwing he does need to be told no and I would let him have it one more time if he does it again let him see you put it up. As for the napping thing if he is still in a crib put him in it he will eventually fall asleep even if he has to cry himself to sleep. If he is in a bed than put him to bed and close the door kids need to learn how to put themselves to sleep. Good luck with convincing your aunt and your sister with this.
My 9 mo. old often does similar things. I agree with not paying attention to it, particularly when it is clearly an attention seeking behavior. For instance my son often does it with his bottle or his sippy cup when I leave him in the high chair and am busy with something else. He wants my attention, so he throws his cup. I usually pick it up once and say ';No Throwing';. (i think it is better to keep it short and sweet, no kid tunes in for long explanations even if they are 3 or 4) If he throws it again, he is all done and it gets taken away. I think there should be a consequence to the throwing, like being all done, but if you make a big deal about it by telling him what he should do or if you say nothing but keep going over and picking it up, he is still getting what he wants. Lots of attention.
There is nothing you can do until his mother realizes she is in the wrong and believe me she will as he gets older there is really not much you can do about it.
I have a sister that acted the same way with my nephew and until my mom and I got a video camera and taped they whole thing and she sit and watch it did she realize she was even letting him by with everything. Until people see it for their self you are not even heard but when you have evidence to support what you are saying do they listen to you.
Good luck !! Hopefully you will find something to get her to change if not you are looking at a child that will have problems in school and just in society in general.
you're right. You have to say no. And you have to say it soon, and often. Not saying it, and then after a long while, suddenly reacting, would be very wrong. And you cannot let the child misbehave like this.
I have often noted that when the parents are weak (as seems to be the case here), and suddenly another person shows some authority, often the baby / child will then get to like that person a lot, because finally someone with a personality, appears.
Now just one question: if the baby's mother is your aunt, then the baby is your cousin, not your nephew. Or if he is your nephew, then his mother is your sister (or sister in law).
source: my 4 children. They don't throw things on the floor. If or when they did in the past, we'd immediately react and tell them not to. If they continued and throwed something they liked, then we'd just leave it on the floor and let them cry so that they'd learn to not play this game. We certainly would never have imagined to pick up the same thing 20 times in a row! ;-)
I would take the item away after showing my displeasure more then twice.
Suggest she do a Triple P course, it's a postive parenting course, because you are right she is being outrageous, but I can understand where she is coming from, alll we hear about these days is new studies into psychology for children and how much we are hurting them by saying no, but I think it is all BS and only breeding nations of brats. She needs help and something like Triple P can be very effective. And if she is on eof those mothers that is worried about doing or saying the wrong thing to her child then she might just go for triple p. So long as you introduce her to the idea in a non-threatening way, you know like have you heard of Triple P? It's a really great program for parents.
they are alot of great articles at babyzone.com
WWW.babycenter.com
If your aunt doesn't do something about this now he is going to be a total brat and want everything when he's older. It's only going to get worse. He needs to be corrected, he's going to have to learn right from wrong. When he does that just tell to stop in a authorative voice and leave whatever he threw on the floor. Don't pick it up cause he's never going to learn. If you pick it up he's going to think that it's ok and keep doing it. If you just leave it there eventually he will figure out that throwing it isn't soing him any good so he will give up. I'm sure he's going to get upset and cry and scream but he'll get over it. It may take some time but if you keep it up he'll stop. If he doesn't listen the first few times he does it then slap his hand, not hard but this will help him realize what he is doing is wrong. Good luck!!Parenting -- what to do if your child throws things on the floor continually?
No page or website can help you with that. He is spolied to the max. I alwasy tell my son no and not to do ti and if he keeps on I take things away or put him in his time out chair. Its fine to a certain extent but they need to knwo dinner time is nt for playing and throwing.
I have a seventeen month old baby. I am very well read and have a ton of books on raising children. There is nothing wrong with gently saying ';no'; to a one year old. How else will he learn? Many one year old children like to throw things down and it becomes a game when the adult returns the object back to him. Your best bet is to gently say no, pick the object up and PUT IT AWAY. If it is meal time and he has thrown his bottle, he probably is not ravenous anyway, so you should still put it away (you can give it back after a few minutes when he has forgotten this little game!)
Now that you know you were right, unfortunately, it's not your kid and you DO have to respect his Mom's wishes. There is nothing more likely to alienate you from your nephews life than to tell his mom that she is doing it all wrong.
That said, it's not like it's going to ruin his life, it will just take him longer to outgrow this phase. Grin and bear it..lol!
I just saw the comment that recommended slapping his hand. Not a good idea. One year olds don't need to learn through intimidation!
hes learning how to wrap mummy round his little finger she will find it hard when there is something she doesn't want him to do but he doesnt know the word no
Well unfortunately there isn't much that you can do. More then likely if you try to talk to your aunt she'll just get mad at you for telling her how to parent her child. But your right what she's doing is in no way helping her son. When he throws things he needs to be told NO! With my daughter if she throw it once she got her hand smacked (not real hard just enough so she knew what she did was wrong) then if she did it again she lost what ever it was until she would behave herself. Kid's need discipline! If they don't have consequences to their action's they will grow up thinking they can do what ever they want. Your Aunt will realize how she's messed up when her son starts kindergarten and she has to go to the school and get him because of his behavior. Good Luck if you do try to talk to her I hope you can get thou to her before it get alot harder to correct the mistakes.
Beat him with a belt.
My first baby was spoiled and I regretted it and worked very hard to change what I had done. With the throwing he does need to be told no and I would let him have it one more time if he does it again let him see you put it up. As for the napping thing if he is still in a crib put him in it he will eventually fall asleep even if he has to cry himself to sleep. If he is in a bed than put him to bed and close the door kids need to learn how to put themselves to sleep. Good luck with convincing your aunt and your sister with this.
My 9 mo. old often does similar things. I agree with not paying attention to it, particularly when it is clearly an attention seeking behavior. For instance my son often does it with his bottle or his sippy cup when I leave him in the high chair and am busy with something else. He wants my attention, so he throws his cup. I usually pick it up once and say ';No Throwing';. (i think it is better to keep it short and sweet, no kid tunes in for long explanations even if they are 3 or 4) If he throws it again, he is all done and it gets taken away. I think there should be a consequence to the throwing, like being all done, but if you make a big deal about it by telling him what he should do or if you say nothing but keep going over and picking it up, he is still getting what he wants. Lots of attention.
There is nothing you can do until his mother realizes she is in the wrong and believe me she will as he gets older there is really not much you can do about it.
I have a sister that acted the same way with my nephew and until my mom and I got a video camera and taped they whole thing and she sit and watch it did she realize she was even letting him by with everything. Until people see it for their self you are not even heard but when you have evidence to support what you are saying do they listen to you.
Good luck !! Hopefully you will find something to get her to change if not you are looking at a child that will have problems in school and just in society in general.
you're right. You have to say no. And you have to say it soon, and often. Not saying it, and then after a long while, suddenly reacting, would be very wrong. And you cannot let the child misbehave like this.
I have often noted that when the parents are weak (as seems to be the case here), and suddenly another person shows some authority, often the baby / child will then get to like that person a lot, because finally someone with a personality, appears.
Now just one question: if the baby's mother is your aunt, then the baby is your cousin, not your nephew. Or if he is your nephew, then his mother is your sister (or sister in law).
source: my 4 children. They don't throw things on the floor. If or when they did in the past, we'd immediately react and tell them not to. If they continued and throwed something they liked, then we'd just leave it on the floor and let them cry so that they'd learn to not play this game. We certainly would never have imagined to pick up the same thing 20 times in a row! ;-)
I would take the item away after showing my displeasure more then twice.
Suggest she do a Triple P course, it's a postive parenting course, because you are right she is being outrageous, but I can understand where she is coming from, alll we hear about these days is new studies into psychology for children and how much we are hurting them by saying no, but I think it is all BS and only breeding nations of brats. She needs help and something like Triple P can be very effective. And if she is on eof those mothers that is worried about doing or saying the wrong thing to her child then she might just go for triple p. So long as you introduce her to the idea in a non-threatening way, you know like have you heard of Triple P? It's a really great program for parents.
they are alot of great articles at babyzone.com
WWW.babycenter.com
Is there anybody out there on the parenting board with kids over the age of 2 who hasn't yelled at their kids?
even once in the last year? if so, does anything faze you and did you do anything in particular to acquire that kind of self-control and patience?
still stuck on a statistic from the link in ALF's question.Is there anybody out there on the parenting board with kids over the age of 2 who hasn't yelled at their kids?
I don't yell. I'm not sure if it's because I can't handle it, or if it's truly just because I think it's bad for my son. Either way, I'm not a yeller.
I don't find it effective, and I think it's damaging. The closest I've come to yelling, was in August, my great-aunt had passed away. She was 94, and a very big part of my life. The night before we left to cross the state for the funeral, I had to go to a parent's meeting at the school for my son. I left him at home with specific instructions to complete his Saturday chores that night.
I didn't find out that he hadn't done anything after I left, until the next morning while I was franticly preparing last minute details for our trip. At which point, I learned, he'd not done anything and wasn't prepared to leave. I was very frustrated. My tone of voice showed that. Was just above a whisper, and rather intense. After the lecture that followed, I have no doubts, that he'll remember that very clearly, and be more of help, next time I have too much on my plate.
Yes, some of the things he does phase me. His logic astounds me at times as it's so convoluted. Self-control and patience? I studied early childhood develpment for 2years, and worked in the field for 8.
My goal in discipline, isn't to relieve my frustration, but rather to best teach the lesson that must be learned. It isn't about me, it's about him. What do I have to do, to prepare him for adulthood? He has to learn how to be a responible, respectful, considerate, caring adult. If he isn't going to learn that from me... who's going to teach him? I have to set the example. Not only for responsibility, and respect, but conflict resolution, time management, empathy, understanding, etc.
If I set the example of yelling, screaming, being insulting, etc. how can I expect any better from him?
If I can maintain my calm, understand his position, give him the reality check, and put things into terms he can not only understand but accept, aren't I helping him to learn how to do these things himself?
If I think I can't maintain, there have been times I feel like I'm going to lose it. It's quite simple, I don't deal with it until I can. He can go read a book, or hide in his room. Do his chores, whatever is appropriate at the time, while I take a time out, and get a grip. That doesn't happen often, but I have no shame in admitting, occassionally I need a time-out. A chance to regroup. A moment to think things through, and decide not only what the real problem is, but what is the best solution.
I think everybody gets frustrated. It's simply how you handle it that matters. by the by, my method of handling it, is just relevant to how I handle him, it's how I handle life in general.Is there anybody out there on the parenting board with kids over the age of 2 who hasn't yelled at their kids?
I have yelled at my kids but I can probably count on my fingers (and maybe one foot of toes) the number of times and they have all been in more recent years rather than the younger years. In other words I don't yell often. I am pretty patient and I am able to keep my calm. I tend to be very consistent and so I just speak in a matter of fact kind of way. I've just never been a yeller, neither was my mom. In the past when I have felt myself nearing that point I would usually go into the bathroom and look into the mirror, it's hard to act like a mad ***** when you are looking at yourself in the mirror. It's not a pretty site and snaps you right out of it LOL
Oh heck no. I yelled at my kids for the first time when they were each just a few *weeks* old (Sleep deprivation and screaming baby= mommy losing her mind. Sorry if that makes me a horrible mom).
Any person who claims to have never ever yelled at their kids at any point is a liar. All parents loose their cool.
I'm a self professed yeller. I don't yell nearly as often as I used to as I'm learning that yelling solves nothing, but I am prone to hollering when I get frustrated. It happens. When it does, I stop and cool off. Then I go back and tell my kids I'm sorry and hug them and spend some extra time with them.
I'm so wanting to hear if any parent claims to have never ever yelled at their kids ever. I want to know their BS... oops, I mean secret.
We all yell. I try not to but sometimes, it's going to happen. I do try to keep my control by telling him to do something once. The second time I have to say it, I say ';Okay, this is the second time, next time, you will be punished';. Usually that works and I don't have to get ugly but sometimes, he gets sent to bed early or time out or I take something away that he loves for a while (Nintendo DS is a good one for me). But you still find that you yell sometimes, whether you want to or not. It's a natural human reaction.
I just don't buy it.
You try to be a good parent, but there are times when I know she knows better, and I don't know what possessed her to do what she did, and I have lost it.
Now I do try to catch myself, and I do apologize to her, but let's just take a closer look at those stats anyway, shall we. Most spankers are yellers as well. So we're still doing better.
EDIT: I am also up there in years. It has nothing to do with being mature and everything to do with being human.
I admit I yell at my son on nearly a daily basis but he's 14 and really needs it right now. Plus the fact that I have to combat an ex who's constantly trashing me and undermining my authority.
I have self control, I have patience but sometimes the passion of the moment seizes me and I yell. It can be very cleansing.
It's not normal for someone to never lose it.
It never starts off as an intention to yell, but frequently ends in a yelling match. I don't wake up thinking ';hmm, today I need to yell at my kids more.'; But when they start fighting and screaming, you need to yell to be heard. Or the TV is too loud, and they're 2 feet from it, they can't even hear me when I do yell (at that point, I resort to throwing nerf balls at them to get their attention). When the response to each question is ';huh?'; in a dazed, dead eye look, my response is to just repeat the question, louder and louder until they actually respond:
Me (normal voice)- What do you want for dinner?
Them- huh?
Me (louder)- What do you want for dinner?
Them- huh?
Me (yelling)- What do you want for dinner?
Them- um, lobster maybe?
Me- are you frickin serious? do you know how much lobster is per pound now? try again.
Them- huh?
Like anything else on here people will beat you to death with semantics. How raised does the voice have to be before it becomes yelling? Is there a decibel threshold? I will say that I don't consider myself a yeller. I'm a big man with a deep voice and apparently an intimidating presence so how much would I really have to raise my voice to get attention? I must say I don't think I've ever heard my daughter yell, however, I have seen her evil eye. I don't know where she got it from, but I would be honored to have an evil eye like that!
I have yelled, but almost instantly try to control my voice level. It stresses my eldest daughter out very badly and I strive for a calm atmosphere. So, yes, it happens but I get control of voice.
My husband never really yells *at* the kids. He might just yell *in general* when he's upset with them. I'm more likely to be the one to yell *at* the kids.
Well... I'm a very quiet, soft spoken person. Friends, family %26amp; people in my life don't ';believe'; I'm capable of yelling. Does that count?
I'm sure they wish they could be a fly in my home to hear my ';monster'; voice... Muahhh haaaa haaaa.
:0)
.
In my former life, I was a Stepford wife and mother.
Alas, in this lifetime, I am regrettably human, subject to anger, frustration, and from time to time, a slave to my godforsaken hormones.
It was probably when my daughter was around the age of 3 that I started scolding her a lot more. She was generally a really good baby. It wasn't until she started openly defying me that it became hard to control my volume.
I'd be skeptical of anyone who answered ';yes'; to this question. Every parents gets frustrated and yells at their child(ren) at some point.
Me!
I think those who claim that they haven't yelled/screamed at least once in a whole year are in some serious denial.
I didn't see the stats or the question ALF asked but i find it hard to believe that any parent out there hasn't yelled at their kids at some point in their lives.
You have to be mute not to!!
Aside from mute parents, I don't see many possibilities on this either.
without the use of prescription drugs, I don't see how it's possible....
i find it hard to believe that there are parents out there that have never raised thier voice....if so..then they are deaf or mute...lol
A little yelling, won't hurt anyone. It is part of the learning curve in life.
I wish
yes.. deaf parents can't yell
My daughter Emily is 6 and a half and I have never yelled at her, the only times I've raised my voice to her have been when she was some distance away and I could foresee a possible danger (like falling from a height or into water etc.). I never lose my temper with her and find solutions for all situations in calm and loving dialogue.
I had Emily quite late in life (I'm 42 now) and I think that extra maturity is what provides the self-control and patience, but it might just be my natural personality.
i dont know what you are talking about alf. but i will answer your question. i never yeled at my little lady in all her life., parents that yell are cowards. i talk to her and i see nothing wrong with letting her live her own way and get what makes her happy. she is almost 12 and i never yelled at her. i did yell at teachers and family that yell at her. i threaten to hit them if they dare yell at my little lady
still stuck on a statistic from the link in ALF's question.Is there anybody out there on the parenting board with kids over the age of 2 who hasn't yelled at their kids?
I don't yell. I'm not sure if it's because I can't handle it, or if it's truly just because I think it's bad for my son. Either way, I'm not a yeller.
I don't find it effective, and I think it's damaging. The closest I've come to yelling, was in August, my great-aunt had passed away. She was 94, and a very big part of my life. The night before we left to cross the state for the funeral, I had to go to a parent's meeting at the school for my son. I left him at home with specific instructions to complete his Saturday chores that night.
I didn't find out that he hadn't done anything after I left, until the next morning while I was franticly preparing last minute details for our trip. At which point, I learned, he'd not done anything and wasn't prepared to leave. I was very frustrated. My tone of voice showed that. Was just above a whisper, and rather intense. After the lecture that followed, I have no doubts, that he'll remember that very clearly, and be more of help, next time I have too much on my plate.
Yes, some of the things he does phase me. His logic astounds me at times as it's so convoluted. Self-control and patience? I studied early childhood develpment for 2years, and worked in the field for 8.
My goal in discipline, isn't to relieve my frustration, but rather to best teach the lesson that must be learned. It isn't about me, it's about him. What do I have to do, to prepare him for adulthood? He has to learn how to be a responible, respectful, considerate, caring adult. If he isn't going to learn that from me... who's going to teach him? I have to set the example. Not only for responsibility, and respect, but conflict resolution, time management, empathy, understanding, etc.
If I set the example of yelling, screaming, being insulting, etc. how can I expect any better from him?
If I can maintain my calm, understand his position, give him the reality check, and put things into terms he can not only understand but accept, aren't I helping him to learn how to do these things himself?
If I think I can't maintain, there have been times I feel like I'm going to lose it. It's quite simple, I don't deal with it until I can. He can go read a book, or hide in his room. Do his chores, whatever is appropriate at the time, while I take a time out, and get a grip. That doesn't happen often, but I have no shame in admitting, occassionally I need a time-out. A chance to regroup. A moment to think things through, and decide not only what the real problem is, but what is the best solution.
I think everybody gets frustrated. It's simply how you handle it that matters. by the by, my method of handling it, is just relevant to how I handle him, it's how I handle life in general.Is there anybody out there on the parenting board with kids over the age of 2 who hasn't yelled at their kids?
I have yelled at my kids but I can probably count on my fingers (and maybe one foot of toes) the number of times and they have all been in more recent years rather than the younger years. In other words I don't yell often. I am pretty patient and I am able to keep my calm. I tend to be very consistent and so I just speak in a matter of fact kind of way. I've just never been a yeller, neither was my mom. In the past when I have felt myself nearing that point I would usually go into the bathroom and look into the mirror, it's hard to act like a mad ***** when you are looking at yourself in the mirror. It's not a pretty site and snaps you right out of it LOL
Oh heck no. I yelled at my kids for the first time when they were each just a few *weeks* old (Sleep deprivation and screaming baby= mommy losing her mind. Sorry if that makes me a horrible mom).
Any person who claims to have never ever yelled at their kids at any point is a liar. All parents loose their cool.
I'm a self professed yeller. I don't yell nearly as often as I used to as I'm learning that yelling solves nothing, but I am prone to hollering when I get frustrated. It happens. When it does, I stop and cool off. Then I go back and tell my kids I'm sorry and hug them and spend some extra time with them.
I'm so wanting to hear if any parent claims to have never ever yelled at their kids ever. I want to know their BS... oops, I mean secret.
We all yell. I try not to but sometimes, it's going to happen. I do try to keep my control by telling him to do something once. The second time I have to say it, I say ';Okay, this is the second time, next time, you will be punished';. Usually that works and I don't have to get ugly but sometimes, he gets sent to bed early or time out or I take something away that he loves for a while (Nintendo DS is a good one for me). But you still find that you yell sometimes, whether you want to or not. It's a natural human reaction.
I just don't buy it.
You try to be a good parent, but there are times when I know she knows better, and I don't know what possessed her to do what she did, and I have lost it.
Now I do try to catch myself, and I do apologize to her, but let's just take a closer look at those stats anyway, shall we. Most spankers are yellers as well. So we're still doing better.
EDIT: I am also up there in years. It has nothing to do with being mature and everything to do with being human.
I admit I yell at my son on nearly a daily basis but he's 14 and really needs it right now. Plus the fact that I have to combat an ex who's constantly trashing me and undermining my authority.
I have self control, I have patience but sometimes the passion of the moment seizes me and I yell. It can be very cleansing.
It's not normal for someone to never lose it.
It never starts off as an intention to yell, but frequently ends in a yelling match. I don't wake up thinking ';hmm, today I need to yell at my kids more.'; But when they start fighting and screaming, you need to yell to be heard. Or the TV is too loud, and they're 2 feet from it, they can't even hear me when I do yell (at that point, I resort to throwing nerf balls at them to get their attention). When the response to each question is ';huh?'; in a dazed, dead eye look, my response is to just repeat the question, louder and louder until they actually respond:
Me (normal voice)- What do you want for dinner?
Them- huh?
Me (louder)- What do you want for dinner?
Them- huh?
Me (yelling)- What do you want for dinner?
Them- um, lobster maybe?
Me- are you frickin serious? do you know how much lobster is per pound now? try again.
Them- huh?
Like anything else on here people will beat you to death with semantics. How raised does the voice have to be before it becomes yelling? Is there a decibel threshold? I will say that I don't consider myself a yeller. I'm a big man with a deep voice and apparently an intimidating presence so how much would I really have to raise my voice to get attention? I must say I don't think I've ever heard my daughter yell, however, I have seen her evil eye. I don't know where she got it from, but I would be honored to have an evil eye like that!
I have yelled, but almost instantly try to control my voice level. It stresses my eldest daughter out very badly and I strive for a calm atmosphere. So, yes, it happens but I get control of voice.
My husband never really yells *at* the kids. He might just yell *in general* when he's upset with them. I'm more likely to be the one to yell *at* the kids.
Well... I'm a very quiet, soft spoken person. Friends, family %26amp; people in my life don't ';believe'; I'm capable of yelling. Does that count?
I'm sure they wish they could be a fly in my home to hear my ';monster'; voice... Muahhh haaaa haaaa.
:0)
.
In my former life, I was a Stepford wife and mother.
Alas, in this lifetime, I am regrettably human, subject to anger, frustration, and from time to time, a slave to my godforsaken hormones.
It was probably when my daughter was around the age of 3 that I started scolding her a lot more. She was generally a really good baby. It wasn't until she started openly defying me that it became hard to control my volume.
I'd be skeptical of anyone who answered ';yes'; to this question. Every parents gets frustrated and yells at their child(ren) at some point.
Me!
I think those who claim that they haven't yelled/screamed at least once in a whole year are in some serious denial.
I didn't see the stats or the question ALF asked but i find it hard to believe that any parent out there hasn't yelled at their kids at some point in their lives.
You have to be mute not to!!
Aside from mute parents, I don't see many possibilities on this either.
without the use of prescription drugs, I don't see how it's possible....
i find it hard to believe that there are parents out there that have never raised thier voice....if so..then they are deaf or mute...lol
A little yelling, won't hurt anyone. It is part of the learning curve in life.
I wish
yes.. deaf parents can't yell
My daughter Emily is 6 and a half and I have never yelled at her, the only times I've raised my voice to her have been when she was some distance away and I could foresee a possible danger (like falling from a height or into water etc.). I never lose my temper with her and find solutions for all situations in calm and loving dialogue.
I had Emily quite late in life (I'm 42 now) and I think that extra maturity is what provides the self-control and patience, but it might just be my natural personality.
i dont know what you are talking about alf. but i will answer your question. i never yeled at my little lady in all her life., parents that yell are cowards. i talk to her and i see nothing wrong with letting her live her own way and get what makes her happy. she is almost 12 and i never yelled at her. i did yell at teachers and family that yell at her. i threaten to hit them if they dare yell at my little lady
What are some examples of bad parenting that you've seen?
Kids running loose in supermarkets while their mom calmly shops.
Parents allowing their kids and friends to get drunk, drive cars, motorcycles, and other vehicles.
Kids running loose in streets, public places, causing trouble while their parents are at home or at work, not knowing or caring where the kids are.
Any examples you've seen?
Remember, these are our future leaders, politicians, workers, etc.What are some examples of bad parenting that you've seen?
riding unrestrained in a vehicle. Being rude and cruel to others. . parents lil mimics there.
I have seen parents looking even walking away from a child in a grocery cart. Six and seven year olds walking to school unsupervised and unprotected.
Parents drinking in front of their kids regularly, swearing.
Worst is not teaching right from wrong from day one.
good from evil.
love from hate. First four years lay the foundation for their entire being.What are some examples of bad parenting that you've seen?
The most recent bad parenting I've seen was last week. I was at the pool at my apartment complex and there were three kids, between the ages of 3-9 running around and playing in the pool. There was no one there supervising the kids, and one of them was a toddler! The kids kept asking everyone at the pool ';Can you swim?'; One of the people they asked said ';Yes, why?'; and the oldest kid replied ';Oh, because we can't.'; I was like OMG!!! Are you seriously letting your three small children play in the pool unsupervised when they can't even swim and non of them even had water-wings on or anything!!!
I asked a Q not too long about this...I found a young child on a racquetball court and it very much torqued me off...
In a previous job, I had to report to a child getting hurt who had climbed over a museum exhibit (moon rover) and fell and broke both arms...how does a kid get that many feet up girder work?
I've seen kids planted in front of TVs for hours at a time so the parents could have fun and happily ignore them...
Just a few...
I've seen a mother who told her child she wasn't going to buy him his toy cause it was too expensive (it was a firetruck sort-of thing if you were wondering.)
..and then she buys a pack of cigarettes for herself which were even MORE expensive..
I got so mad in my head..
Parents that don't care how their child performs in school, kids that run the streets at all hours, and kids that aren't taught common respect to others.
Having a child back talking to the parents in public or otherwise without correction. This is bad parenting.
kids screaming at their parents faces
crying and having temper tantrums in stores
arguing until they get what they want...
Parents who give their kids 60K dollar cars, but the kids actually expected to get it.
parents letting their kids run around filthy.
parents doing drugs and drinking in front of their kids.
parents beating their kids
the list goes on
No parental control on the television. Kids are easily influenced.
paters not slapping their kids...
';Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child';
also
';No Glove, No love';
pretty much every bad parent lives in my town, it sucks.
This one major example explains it all. All of America was horrified when they saw this on their televisions
http://drphil.com/shows/show/725/
My son's friends (twin boys) were over one night and said their dad took a chair and broke it over the one boy's head for leaving a towel on the bathroom floor. Does it get much worse?
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yelling at ur kids right in front of their friends
or
making ur children cry in front of their friends
When they spoil and lie to their kids.
Letting them date alone when they were10
I've seen all those things you've mentioned.
swearing.. drinking.. smoking.. not telling them they just swore and its bad .. ect.
letting 10 year old girls dress like they are 25, buying them whatever they ask for, and never saying no.
Parents allowing their kids and friends to get drunk, drive cars, motorcycles, and other vehicles.
Kids running loose in streets, public places, causing trouble while their parents are at home or at work, not knowing or caring where the kids are.
Any examples you've seen?
Remember, these are our future leaders, politicians, workers, etc.What are some examples of bad parenting that you've seen?
riding unrestrained in a vehicle. Being rude and cruel to others. . parents lil mimics there.
I have seen parents looking even walking away from a child in a grocery cart. Six and seven year olds walking to school unsupervised and unprotected.
Parents drinking in front of their kids regularly, swearing.
Worst is not teaching right from wrong from day one.
good from evil.
love from hate. First four years lay the foundation for their entire being.What are some examples of bad parenting that you've seen?
The most recent bad parenting I've seen was last week. I was at the pool at my apartment complex and there were three kids, between the ages of 3-9 running around and playing in the pool. There was no one there supervising the kids, and one of them was a toddler! The kids kept asking everyone at the pool ';Can you swim?'; One of the people they asked said ';Yes, why?'; and the oldest kid replied ';Oh, because we can't.'; I was like OMG!!! Are you seriously letting your three small children play in the pool unsupervised when they can't even swim and non of them even had water-wings on or anything!!!
I asked a Q not too long about this...I found a young child on a racquetball court and it very much torqued me off...
In a previous job, I had to report to a child getting hurt who had climbed over a museum exhibit (moon rover) and fell and broke both arms...how does a kid get that many feet up girder work?
I've seen kids planted in front of TVs for hours at a time so the parents could have fun and happily ignore them...
Just a few...
I've seen a mother who told her child she wasn't going to buy him his toy cause it was too expensive (it was a firetruck sort-of thing if you were wondering.)
..and then she buys a pack of cigarettes for herself which were even MORE expensive..
I got so mad in my head..
Parents that don't care how their child performs in school, kids that run the streets at all hours, and kids that aren't taught common respect to others.
Having a child back talking to the parents in public or otherwise without correction. This is bad parenting.
kids screaming at their parents faces
crying and having temper tantrums in stores
arguing until they get what they want...
Parents who give their kids 60K dollar cars, but the kids actually expected to get it.
parents letting their kids run around filthy.
parents doing drugs and drinking in front of their kids.
parents beating their kids
the list goes on
No parental control on the television. Kids are easily influenced.
paters not slapping their kids...
';Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child';
also
';No Glove, No love';
pretty much every bad parent lives in my town, it sucks.
This one major example explains it all. All of America was horrified when they saw this on their televisions
http://drphil.com/shows/show/725/
My son's friends (twin boys) were over one night and said their dad took a chair and broke it over the one boy's head for leaving a towel on the bathroom floor. Does it get much worse?
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yelling at ur kids right in front of their friends
or
making ur children cry in front of their friends
When they spoil and lie to their kids.
Letting them date alone when they were10
I've seen all those things you've mentioned.
swearing.. drinking.. smoking.. not telling them they just swore and its bad .. ect.
letting 10 year old girls dress like they are 25, buying them whatever they ask for, and never saying no.
Single-panel comics about motherhood or parenting?
I'm looking for websites where I can find single-panel comics about modern parenthood or mothering. In particular, cartoons with an edge, aimed at adults -- not cutesy ';Family Circle'; type stuff.
Suggestions?
p.s. I asked this in a couple of other YA categories but no answers.Single-panel comics about motherhood or parenting?
Try this one: http://www.cartoonstock.com/directory/m/鈥?/a> A lot by a bunch of different cartoonists, and you can license them pretty easily. Shirvanian is pretty good.
This one has just a few, but I like them more: http://www.pmfox.com/cartoons.html. They're by Mollie Fox (or p.m. fox). I think they're good but I don't know where else you can find them or how to license them.
Suggestions?
p.s. I asked this in a couple of other YA categories but no answers.Single-panel comics about motherhood or parenting?
Try this one: http://www.cartoonstock.com/directory/m/鈥?/a> A lot by a bunch of different cartoonists, and you can license them pretty easily. Shirvanian is pretty good.
This one has just a few, but I like them more: http://www.pmfox.com/cartoons.html. They're by Mollie Fox (or p.m. fox). I think they're good but I don't know where else you can find them or how to license them.
If there was a y/a parenting bbq and we all lived close enough, would you attend?
Hmm...it depends. Maybe if they were on my contacts list. LOL
I picture a huge fight at the grill over who is breastfeeding and who isn't. Then maybe over by the drinks there would be another outburst over epidurals versus natural births. And someone might get their face smashed into the cake because they piped up that formula was just as good as breastmilk.
So, I might attend if I could wear a large raincoat to dodge all the food from the food fight at the end. Des would be up in the nearest tree zooming in with a camera capturing all the action shots. Then the illicit video would show up on YouTube and expose us all!
LMAOIf there was a y/a parenting bbq and we all lived close enough, would you attend?
No, because even though you meet a lot of nice people here, you can come across some of the biggest back stabbers I have ever seen.
People get really defensive about their parenting skills, here, and if you will go mad at someone giving you a thumbs down on here, what would some people do if their parenting skills got insulted to their face.If there was a y/a parenting bbq and we all lived close enough, would you attend?
No, I don't allow internet people around my daughter. Imagine how many child molesters use the parenting section, and how many weirdos post diaper fetish questions here, and all the weirdos who are looking for sex with lactating women. Ugh. Nope.
I'll hang out with my local mommy friends. Much safer. I know their last names and I know where they live. If something went down my husband could give their REAL info to the police.
I would definately attend. There are several Trolls I would love to meet.
The biggest catalyst would be the troll bashing. Grandma and the spanking trolls would be running scared within seconds.
Sure! Regardless of any fights that may ensue, there are people I'd love to meet in person :)
Oh boy, I'm not sure what the biggest catalyst would be! Too many to choose from, lol. But I agree with the trolls vs. the regulars and some of the other hot topics that stay@homemomma listed. I'll add the child harness and lead debate to that!
ah, maybe not...
I would probably be the person parked across the street with my daughter in the backseat, watching with a pair of binoculars to see if it was safe :p
Of course I would! I would love to meet my contacts in person!
(I might like to ring a few necks too! But you know those people wouldn't show up anyway,lol)
lol. no. but i'd watch the replay on network tv when the fights started breaking out.
I'd go to the one smile was hosting. she put me in charge of the list of who was allowed to come. :-)
EDIT - fights - spanking, circumcision, and abortion
I would.
I think it would be a blast! :)
I would go......
**you all like my new groupie?** lol
I picture a huge fight at the grill over who is breastfeeding and who isn't. Then maybe over by the drinks there would be another outburst over epidurals versus natural births. And someone might get their face smashed into the cake because they piped up that formula was just as good as breastmilk.
So, I might attend if I could wear a large raincoat to dodge all the food from the food fight at the end. Des would be up in the nearest tree zooming in with a camera capturing all the action shots. Then the illicit video would show up on YouTube and expose us all!
LMAOIf there was a y/a parenting bbq and we all lived close enough, would you attend?
No, because even though you meet a lot of nice people here, you can come across some of the biggest back stabbers I have ever seen.
People get really defensive about their parenting skills, here, and if you will go mad at someone giving you a thumbs down on here, what would some people do if their parenting skills got insulted to their face.If there was a y/a parenting bbq and we all lived close enough, would you attend?
No, I don't allow internet people around my daughter. Imagine how many child molesters use the parenting section, and how many weirdos post diaper fetish questions here, and all the weirdos who are looking for sex with lactating women. Ugh. Nope.
I'll hang out with my local mommy friends. Much safer. I know their last names and I know where they live. If something went down my husband could give their REAL info to the police.
I would definately attend. There are several Trolls I would love to meet.
The biggest catalyst would be the troll bashing. Grandma and the spanking trolls would be running scared within seconds.
Sure! Regardless of any fights that may ensue, there are people I'd love to meet in person :)
Oh boy, I'm not sure what the biggest catalyst would be! Too many to choose from, lol. But I agree with the trolls vs. the regulars and some of the other hot topics that stay@homemomma listed. I'll add the child harness and lead debate to that!
ah, maybe not...
I would probably be the person parked across the street with my daughter in the backseat, watching with a pair of binoculars to see if it was safe :p
Of course I would! I would love to meet my contacts in person!
(I might like to ring a few necks too! But you know those people wouldn't show up anyway,lol)
lol. no. but i'd watch the replay on network tv when the fights started breaking out.
I'd go to the one smile was hosting. she put me in charge of the list of who was allowed to come. :-)
EDIT - fights - spanking, circumcision, and abortion
I would.
I think it would be a blast! :)
I would go......
**you all like my new groupie?** lol
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