Gay parenting, is it good or is it bad?

i need opinions on both sides of the fence on this. is it good? and why so? as well as bad? and why so? The affects on the children and society and what not. i would appreciate your opinions on this, brutal honesty would be best. Thank youGay parenting, is it good or is it bad?
Many gay parents get children through adoption. Is that a good thing or bad? Consider this:





There are many thousands of children who languish in the foster care system until they are kicked out at age 18. Then, without having had a family, they end up in jail or homeless in a much higher percentage than other people. Imagine how much better off those people would be if they had a loving family instead!





As for the ability of gay parents, studies show that children of same sex couples are as well adjusted as other kids. SEE: http://www.personalmd.com/news.jsp?nid=5鈥?/a>Gay parenting, is it good or is it bad?
This sort of question is getting very boring.





There is absolute no negatives in having a gay parent or being raised by a same sex couple.





That is with the exception of ';discrimination.';


As we all know that's not the problem of the victim. Its the problem of the people who are discriminating plus their parents/school if this happens from a child level.





Think of this like you have to deal with an assault at school.


If your child was assaulted, to be able to identify the cause of the problem and find a solution would you point the finger at the victim (your son) and his parents (you) or at the offender?





And in this case of school assault if you were told that society knows the offender was in the wrong but instead you will no longer be permitted to have children, would that be fair to you of your future children.





I suspect the fear of church groups and other bigots is the possibility that gay parents will do a better job than heterosexual parents. And looking at the parenting skills of the people around us then the resulting children, gays would have to be absolute idiots to do a worse job.





As an example.


Its a well know statistic that most girls are subjected to child sexual abuse.


Its also well know that most mothers ignore the child's complaints about men's behaviour towards their little girl if the offender is her partner.





This simply wont be the case with gay and same sex couples so right from the start gays will be out preforming heterosexuals on the most basic of child protection issue. Protecting them from a sick in the head partner or relative





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PS: Lance E explains about roll models and cross gender issues.





40 years ago when I was in school, in my class of 30 there was not a single child who did not live with mum and dad with the exception of one boy who was with his grand parents. I don鈥檛 know why.





Today few children are living with both mum and dad. Many dont even know who their dad is.





In fact today if your are in a long term marriage, teachers and parents look at you as if your from outer space.





Today its the gays who are forming long term stable relationships.
There have been studies done showing that there is honestly no negative effect on the amount of parenting a child receives either from straight parents, or gay parents. The only thing I can really think of as to how it would really affect the child is if people at his school were to segregate him from the rest of them because he/she would be raised by two moms or two dads instead. They would certainly feel outcasted if they didn't already. But I think that would be when the parents need to step in and tell their child that they're okay and that they didn't do anything wrong. They shouldn't be scared or feel separated from everyone else. But when it comes to direct parenting, there are no actual differences.
If you believe in Piaget's or Erickson's child development theories (which most in the scientific community consider viable) then there would likely be problems in what they call cross-gender identification. For example, I am a male and I learned how to treat females based on how my father treated my mother and how my mother acted and vice-versa with genders. I think we will find that those raised by two mothers may have difficulties in associating with males due to the lack of cross-gender identification if there is no male figure in their lives. It probably will be similar to those raised by single mother's where there is no male figure at all. It would especially be challenging for a male raised in that situation.





The one thing we will find though is that gay parents have a weeding out process if the child was adopted. Only those who really want to be parents will go through all the issues that same-sex couples have to in order to adopt. This serves as a weeding out process. Unlike hetero couples who have less problem. This might produce more active parents in the subset of same-sex couples. I think we will see in about 20 years when we actually have some data.
i know lets see....4 gay couples with children. all of tehm are wonderful people.


1 lesbian couples who have a daughter and son...both VERY kind and intelligent


1 lesbian couple with a daughter, shes very popular, pretty nice


1 gay couple with 3 boys, they're nice


1 gay couple who adopted a crack baby...hes a sweetheart though...so yeah i have several examples and i know none of the children feel awkward or are ashamed of their parents being gay...they all go to my church which is unitarian universalist...i dont think it it really makes a difference in other's lives except maybe teach tehm acceptance.
I say it is bad because if you had a son with 2 mothers, they would need a father's guidance in that department, and if there was a daughter with 2 fathers, then they would need help in the girl department like puberty. After reading everyone's answer, I see why they are for it, but I am against it for the reasons stated above.
It's nor good nor bad.


Orientation does not affect a person's parenting!


A straight person could be a horrible parent! A straight person could be a terrific parent! Same goes for gay parents. And the argument could go to single parenting as well. (My mom is one and she's one of the most fantastic moms on the planet!)
I would say it's neutral





It's kind of bad when your a little kid and you know how kids love to make fun of everything so, once they realize you have 2 moms or 2 dads then, they pick on you. But once your older you kind of get use to it and people become more mature and it's pretty good.
I would be more concerned about whether it is good parenting. It does not matter if you are gay or straight. If you are a crappy parent and can't set a limit to save your life then that would be far worse than any social stigma you may receive from having a gay parent!
Are you making us write your paper for you...? Don't trust us! We're just a bunch of fictional avatars with opinions. Opinions can't be trusted, only facts. Go check out some journals and books about the subject instead of relying on 40 year old experts who are really 13 year old kids who skipped school to spend mindless hours in front of a computer screen which will ironically turn them into 40 year old vegetables! DONT DO IT!!!!
parenting is just that. to be able to teach a child how to make chooses for him/her self when needed.homosexuall or not if done correctly the child will understand the ramificationss of his own actions
Its not a parents sexuality that makes them a good or bad parent. Lets remember gay people are a product of their straight parents.
Why tell a child that they cant go home with a couple becuase they are gay?? Gay couples adopting children is great they just give more oppurtunities to more kids finding a good loving home.
i think gay parents can be as good at parenting as a straight couple. their children will grow up to be more tolerant and loving!
I think it can be confusing for a child and subject them to teasing and ostracism from their peers.
It can be either. Depends on the parents themselves.
Some straight parents are bad.