What parenting concerns are there?

my gf gave custody of her children to her mother because of a violent ex bf. Her daughter at 5 was molested several times. Her son(11years old) has academic concerns due to lack of study and committment. Her mother gives both children everything and seldom invokes discipline. Recently her daugther(9years old) was snooping and reluctantly found a hidden loaded gun of her grandmother and almost shot herself. And to make matters worse her son is found to be a physical and emotional bully to his sister. I need help desperately.What parenting concerns are there?
Ok. How long has grandma had custody? And, is it a temporary or permanent order?





If she has a temporary placement order which was voluntary from the girlfriend, the girlfriend can take the kids back at any point.





If it is a permanent order, or was ordered through the courts, she will have to petition the courts to change the status. She would need to prove that she has a stable home.





Was the child molested while with grandma or mom? And, has she gotten the psychological help that she needs to deal with this? The son's issues aren't enough for the court to declare the child ';at risk';. The loaded gun is obviously a concern, but, typically little to nothing can be done about it, except telling grandma to lock it away. If it is a legal gun that she owns, that is still not a crime.





Your girlfriend will obviously need to be the one to petition the court if it is legal. If it is temporary- or there is no court order- then grandma doesn't have a legal right to keep them away from her...





Please feel free to email me.What parenting concerns are there?
Call authorities about your concerns for these kids. You can do nothing else.


Don't have any children with this woman. She will not be a good parent.
First of all this doesn't really concern you. These are your girlfriend's children, you're not the one who needs help. The children have nothing to do with you.


Your girlfriend on the other hand needs to get custody of ther children back, because it is evident they are already out of control. If she signed away all parental rights she is out of luck though. But if it is just a simple guardianship all your girlfriend needs to do is go back to court and have the order overturned. From the sounds of it she is going to have a rough time with them though...hopefully she is up for it.