Are you overly sensitive about a parenting subject?

What's the one subject that you get passionate about when it comes to parenting?





(i.e. - spanking, co-sleeping, working outside of the home, being a stay at home parent, daycares, raising children in a married home, etc.)Are you overly sensitive about a parenting subject?
I think everyone has the right to their own opinion, so I guess I'm not that passionate about anything. But one thing that ticks me off is when someone doesn't respect someone else's opinion to the point of being rude. I don't co-sleep, I do work, I don't breastfeed. I've been told for all of these reasons that I don't love my kids enough. That's ridiculous. I'm not a part time mom, just like you said. I work to support a family of four. I have a very sick husband and he's a stay at home dad. I don't even use daycare, but I've heard people say, ';Someone else is raising your kid.'; I'm going to assume that every person that says this must homeschool their children. Because we wouldn't want the school to ';raise their kid.'; Sorry to ramble.





EDIT: I forgot! I receive WIC, I guess I must be trash. That formula I get means that I'm lazy and I live off of the government.Are you overly sensitive about a parenting subject?
I get annoyed with the breastfeeding/formula feeding issue. I don't care what people do in regards to either, but some people just feel the need to make rude comments about formula feeding moms in particular, when there's absolutely no need for it. I don't judge people or criticize them and get all up in their business for breastfeeding, so I expect the same respect. Some people just seem to lack that though, and have nothing better to do than try to start trouble I guess.





The other thing I'm somewhat sensitive about is single parenting. I get annoyed by people who assume we are trailer trash on welfare. I am not either of those, so I'd like to tell those people to stick it, because I can pretty much guarantee I am WAY more financially responsible and independent than they ever have been or ever will be! It's just like the young parent/older parent debate. Young parent doesn't necessarily = bad parent, just like older parent doesn't necessarily = good parent. Anyone can be a good or bad parent, it doesn't matter what age they are. Same with single vs. married parents. Single parent doesn't always = poor or low income, just as married parents don't always = well off.





I get riled up also about comments people make that us single moms have to let the father be involved and such. These people don't know half of the backstory, so who are they to say my child's father is a good influence and she should see him as often as they think she should?





As far as being overly sensitive to parenting issues, I don't really take offense to anything. I feel comfortable with not spanking, not co-sleeping ( but I will certainly not bash you for doing it, or anyone else for that matter), and other things I have decided on doing or not doing. That's just my preference, and I understand other moms may do things differently. It's not any of my business, and I wish more people would show others respect when it comes to how they raise their child(ren). Everyone's entitled to their own opinion, I just wish they didn't feel the need to shove them down everyone else's throat.





Oh, and the whole 'letting someone else raise your kid' thing? Yeah, that bothers me. Not that I care... Do I like someone else being home with my daughter full time while I work? No. I don't like missing 'firsts' and all that, but I don't really have a choice now either. Plus I think in a lot of ways it has been beneficial, especially for me and my daughter. She has not suffered at all having a '2nd mom' who loves her and takes care of her while I am at work, who teaches her things and plays with her and takes her on her kid's field trips with them. My daughter has had many experiences with the babysitter that we never would have had otherwise, as well as been around tons of other people, both young and old, that she never would have met had I stayed home with her. Besides - I used to work two jobs before my daughter came along - one full time and one part time - so I have even cut back!
mine is on children that don't behave is the parents fault for lack of discpline.





Do people ever think that children have problems that aren't the fault of the parents?





The single parent and part time mom burns me as well too.


I have been both a single mom, and a stay at home mom. I am married and a stay at home mom now, but was a working married mom too, and a single working mom too.


I love my kids, and was trying to provide for them and show them how to be resposiable for their actions.





It doesn't really matter because no mattr what someone hs a opionion on everything you do, your right , your wrong, It is my life and my business unless I ask them for their opionion they could keep it to themsleves if they don't approve...
A few I feel really strongly about are..





People who refuse to talk to their kids about sex or drugs because they think they're either encouraging it or taking their kids innocence away-in particular when they critisise me and other parents who do educate our kids.





The people who say gay people should not be parents, and make bad parents. If this is peoples opinions, then fine. I cannot stand it though when people state that gay couples make bad parents-905% of the gay parents I know would make fantastic parents.





The parents who say either ';Spanking should be illegal';, or ';If you don't spank your child they will become a menace to society';. They, and other extreme statements like them are ridiculous. I don't spank, but I don't think it's abuse.





And finally like a lot of you i'm hurt by the people tha assume working moms are bad parents. My husband works and earns the majority of our income, and I also work. Not because I 'need' to, but because I actually really like my job most of the time. It doesn't mean i'm a bad or negligent mom!





Hope this isn't too rant-ish! :)
Most of the time I'm not overly sensitive about any one subject. I like to think we're all doing our best.





One thing that gets under my skin is when people of singleton kids close to the same age call it ';twins the hard way';... that kind of irks me because they don't have twins and it almost suggests that people who actually have twins have it easier than those who have kids close in age. Not that I necessarily think twins is harder either but I think that it's one heck of a leap to assume that twins are always easier than two singletons close in age. :-)





Other than that I don't get my panties in a wad over anything.
lol, this question is to make it easier for the trolls to get under our skin?





food allergies and dealing with shy kids. people who think little joey's ';need'; for peanut butter at noon, instead of when he gets home from school, is more important than preventing joey's friend from going into anaphylactic shock. and people who think either that it's rude or bad parenting not to force a desperately shy toddler or preschooler to say hello or answer a question.





i'm pretty passionate about lots of subjects, parenting-related and otherwise, but those are the two that are personal to me and i'm probably oversensitive about.
I really get flustered when people just assume that we can ALL afford to stay home with our children. Gosh, do you REALLY think I’d be working if I didn’t have to? Do you REALLY think I’d pay for someone else to watch my son while I’m at work if I didn’t have to? Do you REALLY think I haven’t already cut my expenses the best I can? Do you REALLY think I enjoy missing my son all day??





Come on…if money grew on trees, I wouldn’t even BE at work, nor would the rest of the world!
I always get criticized about how I didnt' breastfeed, he is on formula. I also always get criticized by being a full-time mom. I can't really afford to SAHM, if I did we would be completely broke and barely making it. If I could you better bet I would be at home with him in a heartbeat. I don't want to live like that I tend to defend myself on things like that. I have even gotten emails from SAHM's or BF moms telling me in a nutshell how I should be at home, give up things they dont *think* we need, how I should have tried harder to BF. I wont apologize to them. I am a good mom and my son is the happiest baby I know.
single motherhood (not divorced motherhood). it drives me crazy because the less amount of family members involved in raising children, the more the government has to get itself involved in everyone's lives - through programs designed to ';teach'; which used to be provided by a child's family or laws designed to ';protect'; which also used to be decisions that a family would make in a child's best interest.
Any of the following:





Co-sleeping is bad/wrong/dangerous.





Formula feeding is bad... you must breastfeed or your child will be unhealthy and stupid.





Spanking will make your child become a horrible person later in life.





ANY issue involving stay at home moms Vs. working moms.





Any time I hear of a single parent (not just moms, dads too) get knocked down.





When someone tells you that you MUST try for a boy when you have 2 girls (or vice versa). Every family must have at least one of each.





With any of these issues.... here is how I look at it: What works for one particular family does not always work for another. So some people just need to accept that and move on. Worry about your own, not how others do it (or how YOU feel they should do it).
Not anymore, but I used to be SO sensitive about the whole 'natural conception' vs 'unnatural conception' (drugs, IVF, etc.) because I have quadruplets and everyone who saw us just KNEW they weren't natural, and being that I had them fourteen years ago, I feel as though back then it was even worse. I hated getting asked that, I hated seeing newspaper articles about it, to the point where I would tear up when I saw it. It was a bit much.
Spanking. No one knows my children or how spanking has helped them learn (in addition to other methods) to be well behaved and how much nicer it is to be well behaved than out of control. People assume you think non spanked kids are bad or that you are simply trying to put fear into them in order to control. Those that associate it w/abuse really bother me.
i get passionate about people opposed to spanking especially if they haven't experienced it themselves





there is a difference between abuse and discipline





i was spanked and i turned out ok and i have learned from my mothers mistakes





never hit in anger that is the difference and use it as a last resort when nothing else seems to work





be the parent not a playmate or friend
I'm pretty easy going when it comes to parenting, I don't give my two cents unless it has been asked and then I'll try and word it as nicely as I can :)





The one thing that really pushes my buttons are: Girls using abortions as BC, and circumcision, it never used to bother me until I had my son and researched it.
The bashing of working moms. I love my job. I do not work because I did not plan my life better... I planned to always work. Not only is the extra income needed but I love what I do and I get to work with other families who need a hand up.





The abortion issue. I respect people being pro life. I do not like the idea of abortions either. But the world is not black and white... there is a whole lotta gray. Not everyone who has an abortion uses it for birth control. In my job I work with all kinds of women who come from some pretty tough, sad back grounds. I wish some of these pro life people can walk a minute in their shoes to see why we need abortions to be legal. I wish we all could live in a perfect world.
Breastfeeding/formula feeding (the fact that people feel the right to criticize people for whatever choice they make on how to feed their baby). The criticism of single parents. The fact that I get e-mails from trolls telling me I'm a bad mom because I work. The assumption that because I work I must not spend any quality time with my child.





And stealing from Lea: gay parenting (I believe the gender of the parents shouldn't matter) and the fear of not teaching kids about sex in hopes of preventing sex.
Stupid people, who aren't educated on ANYTHING.





I got an email, after I answered a question about Reactive attachment disorder. The things I read in this email, were amazing. I was called everything you can possibly think of.


Or when people say your child MUST have Bipolar, or must have AUTISM, or ADHD. Or they say, there is not such thing as BIPOLAR, AUTISM, ADHD.





Oh they drive me NUTS
A few I get irritated with is..'; being a SAHM means you do nothing all day and sit on your butt';. Or the fact I am a mixed mom and my son looks more white and Ive heard some ppl say..He's going to grow up to be a dumb kid( or n**** lover..which was a low blow) bc of his parents inter mixing. Like that has anything to do with it. The BF vs FF is the worst.
I don't know if this counts, but treating one sex as superior to the other makes me livid. ';I'm so glad I have a boy! My husband didn't want a girl!'; blah blah blah. What happens when people like that have a girl (or a boy, if they feel the other way)? Be grateful you have a healthy kid and shut up. My youngest sister is severely handicapped because of an accident at birth. It turns on a dime.





I was one of 3 girls, and you would not believe the number of people who looked at us sadly and said--within our hearing!--';So (my dad) doesn't have ANY boys?'; or ';(My dad) needs a boy.'; When my sister and I had sons, ';Well (my dad) finally got a boy! I bet he's so happy!'; GRRR. Either people are completely thoughtless and don't realize they can hurt a kid that way, or they are completely stupid. Or both.





Toss in a few stereotypes--';You can't play ball with a girl,'; ';Girls are harder to raise,'; ';Boys will be boys';--and my blood just boils.
Working outside the home and single mothers...





I get my panties in a bunch every time I see someone criticize working or single moms. I cringe whenever someone says ';I don't want someone else raising my child...';





It's one reason why I don't spend as much time over here as I used to. The judgement just kills me.
Yes.. the 'dad is a deadbeat'; questions. And all things that fall into that category, which sound to me like ';how can I gouge him for more money?';, and ';how can I get him to give me more money, but at the same time make him stay away from my kid (s)?';.
Personally the criticism in General.Who has the right to judge a person they don't know in person?But if I would to choose one it would be spanking because some of those parents believe in spanking or hitting their kids hard.
Working moms = Part-time moms gets my blood boiling. I would LOVE to stay home with my kids but we can't afford it. Just because I work, doesn't mean I'm any less of a mother.
Im pretty strong on Cry It Out, Baby Ear Piercing and Spanking.





I try to be nice when answering these questions. If the questioner is polite, so am I. If the questioner is rude - well they will get that back too.
I'm very outspoken about the use of the cry it out method, and I am extremely passionate about the importance of extended rear facing for babies and toddlers.





EDIT: My husband has been out of town for this week, and I have been caring for Mason all alone 24/7. Single moms, you are super heroes!! I don't know how you do it.





Another thing that makes me mad is people that call stay at home moms lazy. So, I guess as a mom we can never do anything right. If we work, we're missing out on our child's life and are considered ';part time moms.'; If we stay at home, we're lazy and not teaching our children the importance of working and keeping a job.
Yes, ';part time'; mom, CIO/sleep training, extended breastfeeding (pro) and infant feeding in general.
Working moms, meaning your a part-time mom, or single moms, meaning you're some tramp on wlefare. Worse yet is if you're both...like me, then the judgements really roll in.
Im pretty even keeled about most things. the only thing i will really get worked up over is insensitive comments about miscarriages and blanket statements. I really can't stand generalizations.
I have two issues - one is when people spank babies and think they're actually teaching them something. The other is when people expect their newborn to sleep through the night.
Any kind of physical punishment. There are better ways to handle any kind of situation.
I don't like that when you say you are a stay at home mom, people assume you are too lazy to work.