In parenting psychology, Does physical punishment develop?

into fear, dependancy or respect?





When time outs, and restrictions on some activities don't work ... what other methods could be utilized rather than relying on ';corporal punishment';?In parenting psychology, Does physical punishment develop?
What other methods can be utilized to teach children how to make safe, healthy %26amp; polite choices in their lives, besides punishing with timeouts %26amp; restrictions?





Teaching using role play, role modeling, direct instruction, discussion, supervised experimentation with natural and logical consequences. Teaching using whatever learning method best reaches your child - verbally, tactilely, sensory, written, etc.





Punishment doesn't teach - it 'punishes'. My goal isn't to punish my kids until they're grown - it's to teach them before they're grown.In parenting psychology, Does physical punishment develop?
I am a total believer in spanking...BUT, I think there is an appropriate age for it. When your child is still wearing diapers, but has gotten to the point when they KNOW they are misbehaving (I have two...the first KNEW she was misbehaving at 9 months...the second was a little later, maybe 13 months). When you spank a child wearing diapers, that spank doesn't hurt them...but they are shocked %26amp; surprised out of their behavior. Beyond diapers, you need to find another punishment...b/c at some point you are just hitting to HIT and it's not a spank anymore...it's anger on the part of the parent...hoping to ';pain'; the child into submission. Which means you have to hit harder %26amp; harder as the child grows.





I read a great book called, ';Have a New Kid by Friday';...they talk about building character...and changing your child's attitude %26amp; behavior with your OWN attitude %26amp; behavior change. Which I think is defnitely something to look into.





I think it was Dr. Sears (I know it was a major one)who said not to spank years %26amp; years ago...how it hurts a child's self-image %26amp; whatnot. Then he came back later %26amp; said he was WRONG.
Any parenting psychologist of modern times would absolutely tell you DO NOT HIT YOUR CHILD!


Buy one of the thousands of parenting self-help books (such as ';The Happiest Toddler on the Block'; or ';Screamfree Parenting';) to get some new ideas about how to communicate with your child.


I personally feel that it DOES make a bad parent. If you want everyone to agree with you, you probably shouldn't ask. If you feel bad about it and need some validation here, you should probably take a look at what you are doing.


I am a psychology student and also a parent of a toddler.
I know lots of people, including myself, that turned out just fine because of a discipline structure that included spanking.





I think most kids these days would benefit from a little healthy fear driven respect for their parents.
only idiot psychologist who doesnt have kids will tell you not to spank