How does parenting affects a child's behavior and development.?

Ive tried talking to my parents about arguing,fighting or disputes affecting how we (my siblings and i) have turnt out.





I dont know wether my parents cant admit they did alot of things wrong but they wont admit that the way a parent brings up a child makes them who they are today.





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my parents accidently started a family together before they really knew one another and in my opinion way too young.


After a few years my brother ended up becoming very violent and none of us have been very independant not to mention my other brother acts like a two year old when he is a teenager.


Growing up was hard because our parents have never really gotten on,my dads attitude is that only money is important and nothing we ever do is good enough,my mothers atttitude on life is that because she had a bad upbringing that life is just a pile of crap!


How do you think this wouHow does parenting affects a child's behavior and development.?
It's that old nature vs. nurture debate--how much of our personality is in our genes and how much to we learn? All of the research shows that it's both. Many people who grow up in abusive homes will go on to be abusive themselves; then again, some recognize the hurtful cycle and break it.





Really, you have to recognize that while your family life isn't perfect, your parents probably did the best they could. People rarely raise a family with the idea that they will just mess the kids up. Your folks were young and yet stuck it out--many many couples in the same situation would have divorced.





Your brother acting like a kid--well, that might just be part of him being a teenage boy. My brother was the same way until he turned 20.





It's a big step that you recognize what is going on in your family. You might not be able to change people, but you can make notes for yourself. The best way is to write them down--hopefully in a journal or something that you can look back on. Write down how you feel and what sorts of things you would want to change with your own family. Then you can hold yourself to it.





Teenage years are rough on both the teenagers and the parents. I'm not sure how old you are now, but it does seem that when you get older and start to develop your independence that you may find your relationship with your family members improving.