Why, when a parenting question is asked does the asker usually ask for an answer from the mother ?

Im a house husband with a 2 %26amp; a 3 year oldWhy, when a parenting question is asked does the asker usually ask for an answer from the mother ?
I think it is because most often the mother is the primary care giver. A lot of the time people just say parents though. I'm sure your knowledge will be just as welcome in either case.





It's like www.netmums.com - it welcomes dads as well it's just it still remains the case that women perform the majority of child care. There are quite a few dads on there though - and there is a trial dads board at the moment for dads to discuss parenting stuff.Why, when a parenting question is asked does the asker usually ask for an answer from the mother ?
I havent noticed that the mother is specifically asked very often, just those that says PARENTS. But I can say that although it's becoming more common, a house husband is still a very rare thing to encounter and it is generally moms that day to day raising.
House husbands are quite rare. When we had our first baby in 1974 in London I stayed at home with him for 4 years, and it was quite noticeable then how much mothers disliked the situation of a father being at home with his baby. (Not that I cared). They wouldn't speak at playgroup, the one o'clock club, etc. But they were the best years of my life. When we had our next baby my wife stayed at home with her but I got to come home every lunchtime to see them, and always left work on time to get back to see her and get her off to bed etc, being very careful meanwhile about our son so that he never felt left out. To answer your question, I feel that my wife and I know as much about parenting as each other.


Also, I hope you have the wonderful, wonderful time I had with my son and daughter.
Cos a mum just always........'knows'.......!!!!!
Because mother's are usually the ones that care for their young ones. Some people just do not know that times have changed and men as well as women stay home at take care of their kids too.
cause most of ther time the mother stays at home and cartes for the kids thsats is the reason but i think some dads are better then most moms
In my experience, all the mums I know stay at home with the kids and the dads go to work, so In my case it's natural to ask the mums. I'm not being sexist it' just how it is in my life. My husband has normally left for work by the time me and my son get up, and he comes home about an hour before he goes to bed. He does help at weekends but I still try to do most of it as he does work so hard during the week (He is a builder)
I think a Mother just jumps to mind, most fathers are not the primary care giver, but I as an asker appreciate the comments fathers provide : )
well, statiscally speaking, there are more involved moms...plus, child bearing itself makes you more 'ALL KNOWING' how things are done.
feeling left out?
They probably ask because they want an answer from someone with experence and guys usually do not take care of the kids because they are at work.
don't feel discriminated against


it's just that mother's are naturally known as the caregivers and have the natural instinct of knowing how to handle children





if you see a question like this and know the answer or want to answer it....go for it!


i'm sure you know almost as much as all mothers out there ...except for child birth :)
Hmmm... if you're a ';House-Husband';, why is your screen-name Emma?





It's irrelevant, anyway... people will open their questions with ';GUYS ONLY'; or ';Women, want do you think...'; and still get replies from people that aren't in the target group anyway.





Feel free to respond and share your personal insights, and then open people's minds by pointing out that you are a stay-at-home father. That's how all minorities change the way the masses think! Good Luck to you!
That is a good question. My brother has full custody of his daughter. I also know several men who raise their children with out the moms in the home. People need to realize that in today's world there is as many men if not more raising their children than women. Good Luck with your 2 %26amp; 3 yr olds.
Tell me about it when we are out people always ask my wife about our son and I am there thinking I am only the farther not like I look after him too! When I take him out nobody ever says anything best I get is when mother says to their kid look at the baby.
I agree with both people. Women like to talk but it's nice to have a guy's input.
Because it is usually the mother who is the main carer. I'm sure they don't mean any offence.
cause women like to talk more
yes your right wasnt the show called FATHER KNOWS BEST!
Because it is usually the mother who is around the kids more. It is rare (but obviously not unheard of) to come across a house husband. They are just asking the mother, because that is how most houses are; the mother takes care of the kids and the father works. It is nothing against the fathers. I want to say I think it is great that you are a house husband. A lot of fathers don't get to spend a lot of time with their kids. So unfortunately, the don't know much about their kids. This gives you a chance to really bond with them and learn everything about them.





Just try not to take it personally when people ask the mother all the questions. Just make sure to answer them as well, if your wife does too. This way, in the future, they will know they can ask you the questions too.
because the mother is the one that is normaly with the kids and not the husband, you ask him ten to one he know next to nothing about what is going on..
you are the surogate mother
i am a father, but i can tell you the only real reason is numbers.





it seems far more women use yahoo parenting then men, and while a parent is a parent their are some aspects of parenting (child birth) that only women can realy ansewer, thats all, theirs no bad reason for it, just simple numbers.
Change your name to daddy bob and then people will know, now a days there are a lot of house husbands, you might get to know another in your own area. Good Luck
lol to your add on. umm...i think ppl still have the idea set in their heads that women are the main care giver, and the men either go work or (like mine) buggers off dwn the pub when baby starts to scream!





y'kno, your the 2nd man i've eva heard of being a house husband? i think its lovely personally...
I would say that the reason the asker wants an answer from the mother is because the mother is usually the caregiver. I don't see any reason for a father to answer if he provides most of the care. Years ago, men had little to do with babies and toddlers (especially the ones that need a diaper change). Now that is changed with the new generation, fathers and mothers share in housework and taking care of the children and babies. It's good. I don't think anyone means anything by asking mothers for any other reason. Good question.
I'd have to go with the idea that most people are going with the traditional model on this one. Yes, it's unfair, but on a slightly related note, interestingly enough if you had happened to be a single father, I'm willing to bet you'd get more sympathy than the single mother does. The same standard that assumes mothers know best on this also says that single moms are to be over-scrutinized because of the somewhat outdated notion that women ';naturally'; have loose morals and want to bed the first man they see. I'm not saying I buy into it because there are definitely both good and bad single moms and dads out there, but that's beside the point here.
I agree with what (I think) you're inferring, namely that people presuppose that mothers undertake the day-to-day care of their children.





The problem is that the majority of stay-at-home parents do still tend to be the mothers.





Personally, I try not to pigeon-hole people, and I think that other people should do the same as much as possible. Unfortunately, it's likely to take a few more years yet.
cos the woman is in charge of the house, the husband and the kids


the woman rules the roost


or are you saying that in your case its different?
ads are the same, despite this 'enlightened' age